Category: Parenting
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Two weeks with family in Romania
Conrad was giving Rufus a haircut when we got a text from dad that they landed in Cluj and are through the security. I panicked. Their room was made, but the house was in disarray. And leaving in a rush left it in a worse disarray. We drove like maniacs, while following the rules. We…
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În prag de decizii
Am fost conștientă de lupta spirituală ce se dă în toate planurile Domnului pentru noi. În dreptul nostru am ales cu o minte limpede, cerebral, cântărit, și nu mereu mânată de emoții, deși au și ele rostul lor. Sentimentul de neliniște, de ne-împăcare, trebuie confruntat cu fapte, cu liste. Cum ar fi dacă merg mai…
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Nemulțumire
“De ce plecam mâine?” Vreau sa mai stam. Oftat adânc. Tremurat de buze. Uitat cu coada ochiului in podidit de plâns si tristețe. Anul ăsta așa e de fiecare data când mergem undeva nou. Fetele zic că atunci când sunt mari ele vor locui la hotel, că e mai frumos. Cineva face curat după tine.…
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Cum să facem bine alor noștri
Îmi suflec mânecile imaginare și pun masa. Aranjez prânzul copios pe platouri. Toată lumea mulțumită, fericită. Recunoștința tuturor Însă nu mă inspiră. Adică știu că-i bună mâncarea și-i bine primită, dar n-am făcut-o pentru laude și mulțumire. Astea, cum să zic, mă lasă rece. Când cineva se ridică și completează ceea ce fac. Strânge masa.…
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Learned disability
“Can you help me put my socks on?” Asks my eldest daughter nonchalantly, as we were getting ready to leave. I have made a mistake. But it’s not too late to fix. I have catered to her benign requests, more this last years that in the first years together. I have been told or I…
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First summer vacation day
The kids complain that they are bored. They play outside for a while, drawing on the pavement with chalk. We invite our neighbor’s kid for lunch. He accepts happily; as it’s summer, kids don’t visit each other indoors. So this is cool. They play with Lego, watch a movie, eat lunch together, drink Limonade. Our…
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Unidimensional
Over the last month I have spoken at three different conferences that were televised, and I had a live interview over zoom, with a wonderful conversationalist, the director of a radio station. We’ve had some similar appearances on adoption day, through ARFO or I spoke at their summit or book launches. More people start to…
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teologia adopției
Peste tot in Biblie găsim povești de adopție. Însăși Evanghelia răscumpărării noastre ca si creștinii este o poveste de adopție. Noi îl numim pe Dumnezeu, Tatăl Nostru, si intre noi ne numim frați si surori. Suntem împreuna moștenitorii, înfiați prin credință. Adopția însă nu este doar o metafora. Ca și popor al lui Dumnezeu am…
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Gratitude and a present mind
Wind swept, exhausted and fulfilled, we returned home from a days adventure with adoptive families at a local zoo, up in the woods. It was a long drive as we went to pick up Katja, our new friend, from outside the city in the opposite direction. The effort was totally worth it! The girls made…
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Ivy’s comment
Parenting is riddled with doubt, with fear, with mistakes. Seriously. On the other hand, we have seasons of fun, of connection, of growth, hope renewed and perfect peace. And those wonderful seasons are just as real as the other challenging ones. Just like I don’t worry about pride anymore. I used to as a student,…
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Moody
As a quiet person, I had a lot of time for introspection. It really helped me keep my balance. And my teenage life was not tumultuous. I remember feeling weepy occasionally, but I had learned in my preteen season, to bring my sadness to God, and not let my tears go to waste. Every night…
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The way we discipline
I have said it before, that my parents didn’t have a defined plan in how to raise us. They were not parenting book based in their approach but they were intuitive, wise, adaptable. They made mistakes and the mistakes were just as valuable as what they did well. My one frustration is that they would…