Category: Parenting
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Subject du jour
We go through all kinds of topics, and turn right back and go deeper still on some. When we exhaust an idea we move on and don’t look back. Talking with the girls is fun and exhausting and my favorite thing to these days. One thing my parents did was give me general guidelines for…
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Defiance
When the kids were little the girls would ask me for certain things that I usually said yes, and they asked Conrad certain other things that he usually said yes to. I would put them to bed because I would stay longer and answer more questions. He would let them play on the iPad certain…
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Useful conversations
To what degree do we make a sustained effort to engage in useful conversations? Always. Start always with the best intentions. But I personally pay attention to signs and I adapt quickly to the circumstances and move on if I hit a wall. I don’t trust others’ availability to engage if they can’t manage the…
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Honesty
His distance gives her space to reflect. It is not painful to her. It actually is a blessing. Room to breathe, to think. The relationship is not just physical attraction for her. I wonder if that was the turn the relationship took too early. Like following a roadmap, and having specific milestones, and directions, but she…
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Reset boundaries
Conrad stepped in, but not before dumping on me his frustration or worries. This is due to the fact that I’ve been playing interference as a parent (as a mom of daughters) for too long. I communicate with the girls, I listen to their concerns and objections, we reach agreements. I do this without much…
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First hike in august
With mom and dad we could do only some light hikes. And our feet were already itching for the hills. We get ready with the promise of tired legs at the end, a heart pumping healthily in our chests, sweat running down our backs and a clearer mind. I felt teary driving up to the…
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Trust
Ivy didn’t know what color group to join on the first day of Vbs. Because I didn’t have access to whatsapp where that information was shared. It ls such an experiment- flying dark. On one hand I felt that this is a kind of test. Can I take a break from the hubbub? Can I…
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not in vain
I second guess myself sometimes, and I wonder if kids hear or listen to what I say. This week Jackie was telling mom & I about her conversation with someone she cares deeply about, and how she was encouraging them to reframe their identity on a lasting foundation, not temporary objects, or what other people…
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Broken mirror
My daughter is more important than a broken glassYou are more important than a giftYour relationship is more important than a moment of inattentive mistake You hug her every time you see her nowBecause it makes you happyIt fills you with joy But as she pulled her phone from the pocketAnd dropped the heart shaped…
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jurnal despre adolescenți
Uneori am impresia ca se iau prea in serios. Se grăbesc. Și pun frâna sacadat. Bruscat. Se sperie de propriile trăiri și de ritmul propriu sau al celuilalt. Nicicum nu-i bine. Nici să le dau apă la moară. Nici să faci baraj. Uneori îmi doresc să poată face o pauză natural, amândoi în același gând,…
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sweet target
I’m aware oh how crazy it sounds when my daughter talks about having a boyfriend just as she steps into her teens. She is too young.There are two options as I see it: I either create the context where she can talk to me about her feelings, the stir of new emotions, or force her…
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about the 4 impressions
Right before my period, I feel things differently. I usually go a few notches down in self-confidence. I second guess myself. I mean it’s more like doubt, even as I lean into it as an embrace of a humble sprit. Humility never hurt. It was familiar and comfortable and protective. This month I have explored…