Cathartic journaling of an adoptive mom.
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Priscilla
Acum 5 ani, după ce am vorbit 3 minute despre adopție în Duminica Orfanului la Biserica Iris, Nora Faragau m-a propus într-un panel de mărturii cu perspective diferite, la conferința Priscila cu tema “E vremea curajului”. Așa am ajuns să spun povestea noastră în fața unei săli pline de femei. Aici am căpătat curaj sa cred…
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Marriage reflection
“Are you going to therapy? Did you ever go to therapy?” Such an unexpected question! I assumed the motivation behind the question was that we seem so well adjusted in our marriage, they’re thinking we’ve got profesional help. A different perspective, huh? We tell people we got married quite fast, and we know the conclusions…
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Fără WhatsApp
M-am plâns că fac parte din prea multe grupuri pe Whatsapp. Dar imi construisem deja o reziliență mentală să jonglez cu multe conversații și mă bucuram din plin de conectarea ușoară. Eram în toiul vacanței când am pierdut subit accesul la Whatsapp fără drept de apel în urma unui hack al unei pagini de Facebook.…
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In the kitchen
I am not that patient to show my kids step by step how to cook. I reluctantly give them the wheel but I try to share of what I’m doing as much as they are willing to learn. I like to cook alone. It is my time to process thoughts and I meditate and enjoy…
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Rooted wisdom. Kind words.
I’m storing in my heart the incredibly kind things Jackie says to me. But my heart is full, so as to not forget, I’ll store some of her quotes here as well. She is about to turn 13, and we talk honestly about everything. She asks questions and shares her heart and listens well. Out…
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how love takes root
I made a decisionTo love my daughterwholly and completelyForever. And so far so good. Love is mysterious.I gave firstAnd served.I waited Love is not just a feelingIt is a decision and knowledgeKnowing someonePatiently and kindlyFuels the fire of feelings I enjoy my daughter’s companyHer mind and her heartShe is determined and willingCapable and extraordinaryStubborn and…
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Subject du jour
We go through all kinds of topics, and turn right back and go deeper still on some. When we exhaust an idea we move on and don’t look back. Talking with the girls is fun and exhausting and my favorite thing to these days. One thing my parents did was give me general guidelines for…
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Jenga
A game of building upHow tall could it go?Steady. Thoughtful. Calculated.Pictures on the wall of their phonesTalking about it and holding hands.Visiting each otherMaking plansKnowing friendsInvolving the parents.Building relationships that interwove,Strengthening itor knit it tighter together.Does it feel safe?Or does it feel suffocating? The taller we goThe more dramatic the crashIf that’s what is in…
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Defiance
When the kids were little the girls would ask me for certain things that I usually said yes, and they asked Conrad certain other things that he usually said yes to. I would put them to bed because I would stay longer and answer more questions. He would let them play on the iPad certain…
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Useful conversations
To what degree do we make a sustained effort to engage in useful conversations? Always. Start always with the best intentions. But I personally pay attention to signs and I adapt quickly to the circumstances and move on if I hit a wall. I don’t trust others’ availability to engage if they can’t manage the…
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The book of Ruth
One week in a rustic setting in the mountains, an old cabin with a lot of history, a place where I attended camps as a preteen and then through my teen years. A holy place and a transformative time. Incredible stories, vulnerability, reverence and silence, tears of joy or grief, and relief. And a whole…
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The vacation in between
It’s a hot week. Mom & dad left Europe, and we are waiting for Brian to arrive in Romania for a teen conference. Nearly three decades ago Brian and his team changed my life. And he has been the gift that kept on giving: Through poetry. Stories. Vulnerability. I’m still waiting to settle my memories…
