Cathartic journaling of an adoptive mom.
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Lydia magazine article 2022
We are one of thousands of adoptive families in Romania, some of whom are considering adoption following a diagnosis of infertility, often unexplained but increasingly prevalent in our generation. As women, we carry the burden of infertility, even though recent studies show that infertility is shared equally between men and women. Growing up in the…
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O poveste despre răscumpărare și har
[articol publicat în revista Lydia in 2022] Suntem una dintre miile de familii adoptive din România, unele dintre acestea luând în considerare adopția în urma unui diagnostic de infertilitate, adesea inexplicabil, dar din ce în ce mai răspândit în generația noastră. Ca femei, purtăm povara infertilității, chiar dacă studii recente arată că infertilitatea este împărțită…
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Resolution
Thursday evening before school started, I got a call that Ivy’s transfer request got approved. I can hardly believe it! All summer we were in limbo. Did we expose ourselves by submitting a formal request to transfer Ivy? Will she be the one to suffer consequences either way? We are ready for a change. I…
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Visit
I promise we usually take slow steps. If it was up to ivy,At this age,unfiltered, unencumbered friendliness,She would invite friends over to playevery day. After the movie night,5 hours of chats, food, games and movieThe night was sweet and warm and playfulAnd they all stayed longer stillIn front of our houseAfter walking Rufus. But I…
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Priscilla
Acum 5 ani, după ce am vorbit 3 minute despre adopție în Duminica Orfanului la Biserica Iris, Nora Faragau m-a propus într-un panel de mărturii cu perspective diferite, la conferința Priscila cu tema “E vremea curajului”. Așa am ajuns să spun povestea noastră în fața unei săli pline de femei. Corina deschide cu umor și ironie,…
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Marriage reflection
“Are you going to therapy? Did you ever go to therapy?” Such an unexpected question! I assumed the motivation behind the question was that we seem so well adjusted in our marriage, they’re thinking we’ve got profesional help. A different perspective, huh? On the other hand I assumed they are naturally at ease in this relatively…
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Fără WhatsApp
M-am plâns că fac parte din prea multe grupuri pe Whatsapp. Dar imi construisem deja o reziliență mentală să jonglez cu multe conversații și mă bucuram din plin de conectarea ușoară. Eram în toiul vacanței când am pierdut subit accesul la Whatsapp fără drept de apel în urma unui hack al unei pagini de Facebook.…
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In the kitchen
I am not that patient to show my kids step by step how to cook. I reluctantly give them the wheel but I try to share of what I’m doing as much as they are willing to learn. I like to cook alone. It is my time to process thoughts and I meditate and enjoy…
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Rooted wisdom. Kind words.
I’m storing in my heart the incredibly kind things Jackie says to me. But my heart is full, so as to not forget, I’ll store some of her quotes here as well. She is about to turn 13, and we talk honestly about everything. She asks questions and shares her heart and listens well. Out…
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how love takes root
I made a decisionTo love my daughterwholly and completelyForever. And so far so good. Love is mysterious.I gave firstAnd served.I waited Love is not just a feelingIt is a decision and knowledgeKnowing someonePatiently and kindlyFuels the fire of feelings I enjoy my daughter’s companyHer mind and her heartShe is determined and willingCapable and extraordinaryStubborn and…
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Subject du jour
We go through all kinds of topics, and turn right back and go deeper still on some. When we exhaust an idea we move on and don’t look back. Talking with the girls is fun and exhausting and my favorite thing to these days. One thing my parents did was give me general guidelines for…
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Jenga
A game of building upHow tall could it go?Steady. Thoughtful. Calculated.Pictures on the wall of their phonesTalking about it and holding hands.Visiting each otherMaking plansKnowing friendsInvolving the parents.Building relationships that interwove,Strengthening itor knit it tighter together.Does it feel safe?Or does it feel suffocating? The taller we goThe more dramatic the crashIf that’s what is in…
