Cathartic journaling of an adoptive mom.
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The storm beneath the surface
Ignorance would have been bliss. Upon reaching the border with Serbia I discovered our technical inspection was expiring the day we were supposed to return, on Sunday. Cutting it close. As I looked at all our options to cross the border with the car in a timely manner, I felt trapped, 550 km away from…
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Întâlnirile MomCo din Iris.
Familiaritatea, rutina simplă, structura întâlnirilor, deschiderea mamelor, disponibilitatea echipei de organizare, toate ne ajută să ne bucurăm noi înșine deplin de fiecare întâlnire. Sunt toate un dar, inspirate de Duh. Ne trezim ca suntem intr-un gând pe subiect sau pe nevoile inimii noastre. Anul acesta am avut parte de încurajare și învățătură, de odihnă și…
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Provocări neașteptate. Concluzii surprinzătoare
Le ascult cu atenție deplină și mă minunez de generozitatea și smerenia acestor mame. Mi se pare absolut ironic ca după ce împărtășesc toate câte le fac, se întreabă cu absolută sinceritate dacă sunt mame îndeajuns de bune pentru copiii lor. Răbdarea întinsă, nevoile lor, creșterea noastră și a lor, ne dăm silința, cu toată…
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Luca is a gentleman
My nephew Luca showed up with bouquets of flowers for my mom and me, and for Jackie & Ivy. They were shy about the whole deal, especially as he came with a friend, Tobi. I was so excited about the whole thing, because i love to get flowers & because this exercise in gallantry is…
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Adopția ca o rană în proces de vindecare
Subiectul adopției este atât de comun în casa noastră. Și când apare în compunerile fetelor pentru școală, și le întreb despre ce au vrut să spună ici colo, răspunsurile vin la pachet cu seninătate și umor și debit verbal. La început, după ce s-au așezat lucrurile acasă, am adus eu vorba de adopție. Nu a…
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Paying attention / Active listening
“She doesn’t seem to be interested in what I have to say.” Humans are self-centered and insecure. Some grow out of it. Most don’t. Jackie was telling me how some adults don’t pay attention. I am sure that she has been spoilt for choice and has had many adults hang on every word and engage…
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Family
We’ve taken the peace for granted it think. We often do I think in our society. But we have course corrected with grace, before too late. We enjoyed some new and old stories, and the silence in between. We asked questions and listened intently. If we expect more from others, and offer little of ourselves,…
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Home economics
The Game: 10 lei a week (it’s not about the monetary value). Pay taxes, tithe, utilities, rent, see about some savings and how much money will be left over for spending. Usually barely enough for a croissant. On the chores chart: reading daily, homework, cleaning their room, their bathroom, set the table, clear the table,…
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Disciplina postului
După întâlnirea momco din iris am hotărât sa încercăm o zi de post. Singura si de capul meu fac destule. Dar am vrut ca aceasta experiența sa fie împărtășită cu familia. Conrad a fost de acord fără nici o lămurire suplimentara. Pe ivy am întrebat-o si a răspuns prompt “ok, când?” Când i-am zis si…
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lineage
I don’t wait for the girls to bring up adoption. I initiate. Intuitively I know when they are worked up about a curiosity and they also talk freely among themselves and don’t make a big deal out of it. The adoptive moms’ bookclub had a lot of questions about my approach. They asked if it’s…
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white after darkness
When you have a busy social calendar, taking a few weeks off from seeing people feels heavenly. On the other hand, if you long for connection and crave socializing, staying home throughout some winter weeks feels exhausting and lonely. If it was just my husband and I, without any self imposed pressure to make the…
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First birthday of the year
In the year of AI and other algorithms taking over social media, I don’t want to post any memento of my daughter’s birthday, but I want to comemorate it in writing. I seem to have misplaced my purple leather diary, so I will reflect here on a few thoughts about celebrating birthdays. I am not…
