Category: Adoption
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Cum să facem bine alor noștri
Îmi suflec mânecile imaginare și pun masa. Aranjez prânzul copios pe platouri. Toată lumea mulțumită, fericită. Recunoștința tuturor Însă nu mă inspiră. Adică știu că-i bună mâncarea și-i bine primită, dar n-am făcut-o pentru laude și mulțumire. Astea, cum să zic, mă lasă rece. Când cineva se ridică și completează ceea ce fac. Strânge masa.…
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Unidimensional
Over the last month I have spoken at three different conferences that were televised, and I had a live interview over zoom, with a wonderful conversationalist, the director of a radio station. We’ve had some similar appearances on adoption day, through ARFO or I spoke at their summit or book launches. More people start to…
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teologia adopției
Peste tot in Biblie găsim povești de adopție. Însăși Evanghelia răscumpărării noastre ca si creștinii este o poveste de adopție. Noi îl numim pe Dumnezeu, Tatăl Nostru, si intre noi ne numim frați si surori. Suntem împreuna moștenitorii, înfiați prin credință. Adopția însă nu este doar o metafora. Ca și popor al lui Dumnezeu am…
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Gratitude and a present mind
Wind swept, exhausted and fulfilled, we returned home from a days adventure with adoptive families at a local zoo, up in the woods. It was a long drive as we went to pick up Katja, our new friend, from outside the city in the opposite direction. The effort was totally worth it! The girls made…
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Ivy’s comment
Parenting is riddled with doubt, with fear, with mistakes. Seriously. On the other hand, we have seasons of fun, of connection, of growth, hope renewed and perfect peace. And those wonderful seasons are just as real as the other challenging ones. Just like I don’t worry about pride anymore. I used to as a student,…
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Believe
What my daughter needs is words of encouragement. It’s her lifeline, especially when she struggles, when she doubts herself. A parent’s belief in the kids’ success comes before the success. I believe god help my unbelief. As I speak power into her heart, “you are smart, you will succeed, you will overcome this challenge” I…
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Inner-circle
To belong. To be seen. To be loved. We are an odd bunch, but we resonate with each other. We felt it was high time to create a space for adoptive families to meet again. It has been a challenging season, from pandemic and isolation to war and generally parenting small people with different personalities,…
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Impromptu interview
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Math
The “attitude of war” is becoming all too familiar. The emotional rollercoaster in our pre-pre teens has began a while ago. We would be in denial not to acknowledge it. The difference is stark between a 5 years old and a 8 years old. Something triggers her. Maybe she didn’t sleep enough, or too much.…
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processing a season of war
This intense season feels familiar. My mommy brain has been training for such a time as this. Have you ever filled balloons with air, the classic way? I was terrified that if I blew too much air the balloon will pop in my face. It has happened once or twice. But as I see and…
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Toxic stress
The reason kids from difficult places have special emotional needs that affect sometimes their ability to learn, is because early on their brain was flooded to stress hormones. And there was nobody to console them, to help them feel safe. To meet their needs, to offer warmth, and nourishment and rest. Many adoptive families believe…
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Subliminal noise
Maybe we would do a better job separating the anxious thoughts bombarding us, if we weren’t also involved in helping out directly. I thought my plate was full, and then I added one more course on top of it full. I fear I may mix up events, groups, or let things fall through the cracks.…