Cathartic journaling of an adoptive mom.
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How are you doing?
A question that most often doesn’t receive a good enough answer. We are too comfortable to get vulnerable. It’s a lot of work. It can be embarrassing. But then again, that is the point. We are all carrying different weights. We are all hurt. We have different but very personal longings. Rest. True rest. Community.…
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A week of service
“I appreciate everything you do for me. I know sometimes it doesn’t seem so, because I am a kid, but know that I see how much you do for us.” Said Jackie at dinner time. We woke up early, I did at least. Jackie slept in and it was good for her. I made some…
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Resourcefulness
I didn’t know I poses a certain creativity when it comes to solving problems. Asking questions was frowned upon when I was a kid. So I learned to find out answers and solutions. I did it out of necessity. But I think I also like it. I loved the success. The independence. I got good…
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Fair competition
When and how should kids learn about equal opportunity and fair games? Early on we lower our standards, and we don’t use our full capacity to win against our kids in games. I let ivy catch up with me when we swim. Only in the pool she blatantly asked me to let her win. I…
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Writing yourself in a book
Now both Conrad and I are published writers. Even if you don’t write yourself in a story, even if you don’t publish an autobiography, writing is vulnerable. For some reason blogging doesn’t feel so dramatically final. Maybe it’s the false impression that I can take it back, shutting down the blog. I am fully aware…
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Întrebări indiscrete
Uneori se repetă, alteori sunt doar invazive, și nu o data, întrebările indiscrete au fost puse de față cu copiii noștri adoptați. “O cunoști pe mama lor biologică? Sunt de etnie? Cum sau de ce au fost abandonați? De unde vin? Cum au ajuns la voi? I-ați ales voi? Ceva in noi se crispează la…
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Dificultăți sau oportunități de conectare
Ce provocări ne așteaptă dincolo de pragul adoptiei? Suntem pregătiți sa le facem față? Sunt întrebări cu care ne frământam noi toți părinții potențial adoptatori. Toți copiii adoptați ajung in familii cu diferite carențe: fizice, emoționale, sociale, spirituale. Chiar si dacă au recuperat deja mult la asistenții maternali. Unii poarta cu ei rănile la suprafața, alții…
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Preparation in just the right amount
In 6th grade I over-prepared for my biology lesson. We had to memorize all the terms by heart. I still remember all the bone names, or what the cells are made of, or the plants, or the digestive system, hearing, brain everything. It was fascinating. I never considered being a doctor but I loved learning…
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Leadership and parenting
Leaders are people who have influence. Whatever your personality type you probably have More influence than you think. In order to grow purposefully, it is best to be aware of the influence you DO have. Accept it. Embrace it. But before you ever lead anyone, you need to follow someone, and that first someone is…
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Calculated risk
We’ve accepted the possibility of judgement and turned up eyebrows in exchange for a bit of extra freedom at the conference. Not irresponsible though. We know our kids. And we’ve poured everything we have in them, purposefully and rationally. We built resilience and mutual trust. And as they grow we grow, and we take risks,…
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Three women in their thirties discussing burnout
It is not an exhaustive presentation. We all shared from what we learned as we traveled through the valley of burnout, camping there for a while, reaching the valley from different directions. Some having started the climb up a while ago. Awareness of where we are is a great starting point. And you don’t have…
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Integrity in the story of Joseph
At ROM, Marko Stupar shared about Integrity in the context of the story of Joseph. He posed a few questions that we had to sit with. Two are still stuck in my mind. Who are you when nobody is looking? Who are you when you have power? Indeed, the question of integrity applies to all…
