Category: Family
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Aaaand we’re back!
I’ve had in the past, the feeling that I can’t quite catch up with my feelings, my inner self, my thoughts. But this trip to Dublin was crisp, in the air and in the mind. Just before hopping on the plane I repurchased the book called “Boundaries” written by two christian psychologists. A brilliant book…
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How boundaries got me the best husband in the world
It was during the first weeks of dating. We got physical pretty early, if the first night we met counts. As we sat near each other at the restaurant, a few beers into the late evening, Conrad moved his elbow closer and closer to mine, above the table, barely touching my pinky with his pinky.…
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My childhood
Today we spent two hours with the psychologist. The last meeting with her. She observed half way through that I am a perfectionist. I disagreed with her. But as the conversation progressed I realized that what she meant was that I am a doer (Apple called it “Responsibility”). I get involved and I have to…
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Spiritual warfare
In my whole life, I had not had so much spiritual warfare in most areas of my life. We are in the middle of the adoption process and everything is going great there. And along with that, Conrad and I feel encouraged, happy and fulfilled – a very good season in our marriage. But the…
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Conrad’s family background
We spent the morning with the social worker reminiscing about Conrad’s childhood, activities, family values and traits, stories, parenting style and how they will influence Conrad’s role as a father. I must confess I got homesick for California. And the idyllic childhood Conrad had. Mom and Dad you are the greatest!
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Budapest
We have had a pretty intense week. A lot of heavy stuff going on around us, which inevitably took a toll on us. But Saturday morning rolled in, we packed our car and drove for 6 hours to Budapest to spend the weekend in a shared-with-friends Airbnb apartment. …Two days away from familiar places can…
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Last parenting class
So many questions and such a long journey. I haven’t met any child, didn’t do anything spectacular, but this week I have felt emotionally spent. Today was the last full day of training. We had two families stop by with their adopted boys, both around 2 years old. Both had adopted within the last year.…
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Home visitation
It was a natural visit, as we’ve met with these two ladies quite a few time this month. They are positive, kind and polite. Nonetheless, the process of painting a picture of who we are, from all vantage points, and who our family is, how do they feel about adoption, who forms our support system,…
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Off handed comments
To my surprise, I still discover people who believe we are financially supported by our parents. Here is my response to them:
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Conflict resolution
Today was another big day in our #adoptionjourney – I had the second meeting with the psychologist which lasted 2.5 hours. Today we evaluated my marriage relationship, decision to adopt, my childhood, my current extended relationships, daily activities, dealing with conflict, routines, meals and exercise etc. The role of the state in the adoption process…
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Who brings out the best in you?
How aware are you of the people who bring out the best in you? Who are they? How do you seek their company? What are their qualities? What exactly do they do to make you blossom? How do they build you up? How do they draw you to them, seemingly effortlessly? There are times when…
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Apartment Prep
Well the kitchen’s done! After many emails back and forth to the contractors, the counter people and Dan, Vio’s brother, who oversaw the whole thing, it has come together. All of the appliances are installed, the water runs both hot and cold, and the cabinets are all the same color. We really couldn’t have stayed…