“When you don’t look for work yourself, the devil will find something for you to do.” (grandparents wisdom)
As we reached a point of apparent complete fulfillment, we took our time to observe it intently, and realized that financial stability, career, marriage and wanting for nothing is not enough. We wanted a challenge. We wanted to overcome and conquer bigger things, physical, emotional, spiritual, to lay our head to rest every night exhausted and fulfilled, with the hope of future and delayed gratification.

It is the year of divorces. The closest people to me have divorced. Marriages are falling apart left and right. My college best friend, my brother, one of my newest closest friends and neighbor. And recently UK filed for divorce from EU.
A few other friends came close to it, but until recently I knew nobody who’s divorced in a personal way.

As I sit here, with the adoption course and evaluation completed, ready to receive the certification and adopt within the next month, I remember the idleness and heavy heart from lack of challenges from a few years ago. There was a moment which I vividly remember when I felt out of love, numb, hopeless; most things were going great in my life, too good that my inner self got lazy, complacent, dissatisfied. I used to fill my tank at work. Fill it to the brim. I got recognition, validation, challenges, excitement at work. How could it be bad when it felt so good? Well, have any of you learned about prioritization and the benefits of having a balanced life? I told Conrad about my predicament. He took me serious. The course adjusted smoothly. So smoothly I don’t even remember, like a big ship without any obstacles, just a gentle turn of the direction. Had I made some poor choices, which were easily accessible, enticing even, things could have turned bad.

I understand how falling asleep at the post can happen. I don’t encourage severe punishment for falling asleep when in charge with guarding your life, your marriage. To each their own consequences. But I commend all friends who have the gift of foreseeing, and the gift of exhortation, to use them with courage. And not feel they are exaggerating. Friends, trust your instincts and love your friends with humility and clarity of speech.