Author: Violeta
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How boundaries got me the best husband in the world
It was during the first weeks of dating. We got physical pretty early, if the first night we met counts. As we sat near each other at the restaurant, a few beers into the late evening, Conrad moved his elbow closer and closer to mine, above the table, barely touching my pinky with his pinky.…
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Boundaries
I finally had a good night sleep. Over the last two weeks I slept poorly. Had nightmares, some nights I slept too little, others I slept too much – neither restful though. I lost weight. Here is a good reminder. I knew this truth, but except for my parents and my psalm friends, nobody validated…
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My childhood
Today we spent two hours with the psychologist. The last meeting with her. She observed half way through that I am a perfectionist. I disagreed with her. But as the conversation progressed I realized that what she meant was that I am a doer (Apple called it “Responsibility”). I get involved and I have to…
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Spiritual warfare
In my whole life, I had not had so much spiritual warfare in most areas of my life. We are in the middle of the adoption process and everything is going great there. And along with that, Conrad and I feel encouraged, happy and fulfilled – a very good season in our marriage. But the…
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Conrad’s family background
We spent the morning with the social worker reminiscing about Conrad’s childhood, activities, family values and traits, stories, parenting style and how they will influence Conrad’s role as a father. I must confess I got homesick for California. And the idyllic childhood Conrad had. Mom and Dad you are the greatest!
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Lady Wisdom – Psalm 1
20-21 Lady Wisdom goes out in the street and shouts. At the town center she makes her speech. In the middle of the traffic she takes her stand. At the busiest corner she calls out: 22-24 “Simpletons! How long will you wallow in ignorance? Cynics! How long will you feed your cynicism? Idiots! How long…
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Budapest
We have had a pretty intense week. A lot of heavy stuff going on around us, which inevitably took a toll on us. But Saturday morning rolled in, we packed our car and drove for 6 hours to Budapest to spend the weekend in a shared-with-friends Airbnb apartment. …Two days away from familiar places can…
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Something to fill me with passion
How important is it to live fully and passionately? I find it to be a requisite for a rich, fruitful life.
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Last parenting class
So many questions and such a long journey. I haven’t met any child, didn’t do anything spectacular, but this week I have felt emotionally spent. Today was the last full day of training. We had two families stop by with their adopted boys, both around 2 years old. Both had adopted within the last year.…
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Home visitation
It was a natural visit, as we’ve met with these two ladies quite a few time this month. They are positive, kind and polite. Nonetheless, the process of painting a picture of who we are, from all vantage points, and who our family is, how do they feel about adoption, who forms our support system,…
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Off handed comments
To my surprise, I still discover people who believe we are financially supported by our parents. Here is my response to them:
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For the blog readers
When I take Rufus for walks in the morning, and I let him run through the grass, I take in the silence and morning sun. My mind is clear so I write down more thoughts on adoption, to be shared over time, in bite-size on facebook, in Romanian. You now get a sneak-peek.