Author: Violeta
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A new series of thoughts on adoption
As we discuss adoption with any and all, we realize how different our views are, and how generally ignorant we are as a society. Mainly because in Romania as a culture, we avoid discussing delicate subjects. We are very non-confrontational because the alternative is a heated reaction or response. We prefer the one-punch-knock-out strategy, not…
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Prayer for someone near
You left a disaster behind you. Though your ex husband speaks only kindly and discreetly about you, that only proves his character. Nothing hidden remains so for too long. The truth comes to light always. Your son’s words and reaction last time I saw him this year says a lot. Please, for his sake, don’t…
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Parenting class #2
We woke up at 6 to go have coffee first with Nathan – and what a beautiful morning it was! At let’s coffee you meet old friends and make new ones. It’s such a lovely gathering spot! Then at 9 we met with our group of 6 couples and 2 social workers and worked through…
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Bonfire
Eli emailed me months ago to organize a bonfire for when him and his team of guys from pbcc come to Romania. I asked for input from our youth group and thus a location was chosen. The anticipation was built, food purchased and on the day of the outing, we drove to Soimeni and immersed…
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Conflict resolution
Today was another big day in our #adoptionjourney – I had the second meeting with the psychologist which lasted 2.5 hours. Today we evaluated my marriage relationship, decision to adopt, my childhood, my current extended relationships, daily activities, dealing with conflict, routines, meals and exercise etc. The role of the state in the adoption process…
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Tree
“I hope you can begin to recognize your family for what it is: a grafted tree. Magnificent to behold. One of a kind. Contrary to nature. Intricate roots sprouting luxuriant leaves. Loaded with challenges for a gardener, but ultimately yielding a harvest of unparalleled sweetness.” ~ Sherrie Eldridge
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A month of meetings
…Not what you would expect though. During the month of May we will complete the parenting classes and the meetings with the psychologist. The first meeting was smooth and very encouraging.
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Lacu Roșu
The mountains were calling. A very luring call. With promises of fresh air, silence, beautiful blue sky, tall dense evergreen forests, and a comforting reminder of how small we are.
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From hardship to determination
Nobody wakes up one day determined to be courageous in speech and action – just because. But even if someone does, it doesn’t last. Behind a determined bold man or woman there is always a story of hardship that they overcame with perseverance. You have to die to self to be born again as a…
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Who brings out the best in you?
How aware are you of the people who bring out the best in you? Who are they? How do you seek their company? What are their qualities? What exactly do they do to make you blossom? How do they build you up? How do they draw you to them, seemingly effortlessly? There are times when…
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A letter
The “20 things…” Adoption Book is pretty heavy, even depressing at times, but I like it. It is awakening. As it says in the beginning, many adoptive parents who start on this path in earnest, they romanticize the notion of adoption. I think this comes from a healthy mind and heart. Nobody would ever get…