Category: Adoption
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A prisoner of your own wealth
We have been asked more times than we can recall “why would you move away from Silicon Valley”. You can’t understand until you’ve lived there. It is an amazing place, but it is not the ultimate place. We left because we had somewhere to be. We were pursuing financial simplicity. We were pursuing adoption in…
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It’s Sunday
Last weekend I went to Jazz in the Park and met with a friend visiting from out of town who was returning a bag of books to Carmen, “our local library”. As she pulled out of the bag the stack of books, one of them, thin and discreet, had this title: Church frustration and fulfillment…
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4 girls?
As we’ve prepared to become adoptive parents in this Romanian county, with a certain law governing the entire country, but with small and big adaptations per region, per county, we’ve built up anticipation. We wanted to adopt two children at once, thinking we can multitask, two is better than one, and they’ll also have play…
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Boundaries
I finally had a good night sleep. Over the last two weeks I slept poorly. Had nightmares, some nights I slept too little, others I slept too much – neither restful though. I lost weight. Here is a good reminder. I knew this truth, but except for my parents and my psalm friends, nobody validated…
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My childhood
Today we spent two hours with the psychologist. The last meeting with her. She observed half way through that I am a perfectionist. I disagreed with her. But as the conversation progressed I realized that what she meant was that I am a doer (Apple called it “Responsibility”). I get involved and I have to…
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Spiritual warfare
In my whole life, I had not had so much spiritual warfare in most areas of my life. We are in the middle of the adoption process and everything is going great there. And along with that, Conrad and I feel encouraged, happy and fulfilled – a very good season in our marriage. But the…
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Something to fill me with passion
How important is it to live fully and passionately? I find it to be a requisite for a rich, fruitful life.
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Last parenting class
So many questions and such a long journey. I haven’t met any child, didn’t do anything spectacular, but this week I have felt emotionally spent. Today was the last full day of training. We had two families stop by with their adopted boys, both around 2 years old. Both had adopted within the last year.…
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Home visitation
It was a natural visit, as we’ve met with these two ladies quite a few time this month. They are positive, kind and polite. Nonetheless, the process of painting a picture of who we are, from all vantage points, and who our family is, how do they feel about adoption, who forms our support system,…
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Off handed comments
To my surprise, I still discover people who believe we are financially supported by our parents. Here is my response to them:
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For the blog readers
When I take Rufus for walks in the morning, and I let him run through the grass, I take in the silence and morning sun. My mind is clear so I write down more thoughts on adoption, to be shared over time, in bite-size on facebook, in Romanian. You now get a sneak-peek.
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A new series of thoughts on adoption
As we discuss adoption with any and all, we realize how different our views are, and how generally ignorant we are as a society. Mainly because in Romania as a culture, we avoid discussing delicate subjects. We are very non-confrontational because the alternative is a heated reaction or response. We prefer the one-punch-knock-out strategy, not…