Category: Adoption
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Parenting class #2
We woke up at 6 to go have coffee first with Nathan – and what a beautiful morning it was! At let’s coffee you meet old friends and make new ones. It’s such a lovely gathering spot! Then at 9 we met with our group of 6 couples and 2 social workers and worked through…
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Conflict resolution
Today was another big day in our #adoptionjourney – I had the second meeting with the psychologist which lasted 2.5 hours. Today we evaluated my marriage relationship, decision to adopt, my childhood, my current extended relationships, daily activities, dealing with conflict, routines, meals and exercise etc. The role of the state in the adoption process…
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Tree
“I hope you can begin to recognize your family for what it is: a grafted tree. Magnificent to behold. One of a kind. Contrary to nature. Intricate roots sprouting luxuriant leaves. Loaded with challenges for a gardener, but ultimately yielding a harvest of unparalleled sweetness.” ~ Sherrie Eldridge
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A letter
The “20 things…” Adoption Book is pretty heavy, even depressing at times, but I like it. It is awakening. As it says in the beginning, many adoptive parents who start on this path in earnest, they romanticize the notion of adoption. I think this comes from a healthy mind and heart. Nobody would ever get…
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“The Special Needs of Adopted Children”
Excerpt From: Eldridge, Sherrie. “Twenty Things Adopted Kids Wish Their Adoptive Parents Knew.” “Please keep in mind as you read my list that it is merely a springboard for you to begin making your own, for each adoptee is unique. Study your child, enter into play with her, observe her interacting with others. All these…
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2 years
We flew to Romania two years ago to buy an apartment. Then we went back to California to our jobs and stuff, cars, furniture, family, routine, lives. Hard to believe it has been only two years. It is then when our adoption journey started in earnest. Though we decided on a moving date, late summer. …
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Long awaited visit
Quote of the day: “We abandon the most important journey of our lives when we abandon desire. We leave our hearts by the side of the road and head off in the direction of fitting in, getting by, being productive, what have you. Whatever we might gain–money, position, the approval of others, or just absence…
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Week 1 – we survived
It’s like a cold shower, or like having to write with your left hand all of a sudden, and it’s not just doodling. It’s writing your final thesis. We have done everything in our power to prepare for the move, but I can’t help but acknowledge how much easier life was in the States. On…
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Reflections
As this trip nears its inevitable end, I can’t help but dwell on the things that didn’t happen. We didn’t make much personal progress on the adoption process, we never had time to even visit an orphanage; the kitchen isn’t finished, we didn’t really relax, etc. But as I reflect on these things, I realize…
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Knocking at doors
We visited the child protection office. A huge building with imposing architecture, with huge heavy doors and old hallways. My stomach in a knot, and no one in sight. We finally knocked and opened a side door. I told the lady that we are interested in talking to someone about adoption. The surprised look on…