Category: Parenting
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A prisoner of your own wealth
We have been asked more times than we can recall “why would you move away from Silicon Valley”. You can’t understand until you’ve lived there. It is an amazing place, but it is not the ultimate place. We left because we had somewhere to be. We were pursuing financial simplicity. We were pursuing adoption in…
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In the park
With girlfriends, once you convince them to get out of the house. This weekend was the street food festival, and we went out for ice-cream with two of my closest friends who have kids.
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4 girls?
As we’ve prepared to become adoptive parents in this Romanian county, with a certain law governing the entire country, but with small and big adaptations per region, per county, we’ve built up anticipation. We wanted to adopt two children at once, thinking we can multitask, two is better than one, and they’ll also have play…
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My childhood
Today we spent two hours with the psychologist. The last meeting with her. She observed half way through that I am a perfectionist. I disagreed with her. But as the conversation progressed I realized that what she meant was that I am a doer (Apple called it “Responsibility”). I get involved and I have to…
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Last parenting class
So many questions and such a long journey. I haven’t met any child, didn’t do anything spectacular, but this week I have felt emotionally spent. Today was the last full day of training. We had two families stop by with their adopted boys, both around 2 years old. Both had adopted within the last year.…
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For the blog readers
When I take Rufus for walks in the morning, and I let him run through the grass, I take in the silence and morning sun. My mind is clear so I write down more thoughts on adoption, to be shared over time, in bite-size on facebook, in Romanian. You now get a sneak-peek.
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A new series of thoughts on adoption
As we discuss adoption with any and all, we realize how different our views are, and how generally ignorant we are as a society. Mainly because in Romania as a culture, we avoid discussing delicate subjects. We are very non-confrontational because the alternative is a heated reaction or response. We prefer the one-punch-knock-out strategy, not…
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Conflict resolution
Today was another big day in our #adoptionjourney – I had the second meeting with the psychologist which lasted 2.5 hours. Today we evaluated my marriage relationship, decision to adopt, my childhood, my current extended relationships, daily activities, dealing with conflict, routines, meals and exercise etc. The role of the state in the adoption process…
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“The Special Needs of Adopted Children”
Excerpt From: Eldridge, Sherrie. “Twenty Things Adopted Kids Wish Their Adoptive Parents Knew.” “Please keep in mind as you read my list that it is merely a springboard for you to begin making your own, for each adoptee is unique. Study your child, enter into play with her, observe her interacting with others. All these…