Category: Adoption
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about writing
“Do what you know” they say. Do what you like, what draws you. Write from experience. Don’t make things up, even if you write fiction. Your fictional characters can become real if you write in them stuff you actually have experience with. I worry to not be snobby in my world view. So I lean…
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Să ascultăm cu atenție și curiozitate
Mi-am înăbușit curiozitatea ca și copil, pentru ca nu prea era loc de întrebările copiilor în acea generație, și de asemenea, curiozitatea despre oameni era prea soră cu bârfa, și oamenii care puneau prea multe întrebări erau suspicioși, și fără doar și poate informatori. Pe de altă parte, nu-mi plăcea nici mie să fiu iscodită.…
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Rugina
Din neveghere s-a atins rugina de mintea mea. Lăsată în ploaie, neadăpostită, necurățată… Totul părea în regula, dar în timp am început sa aud scârțâieli. Provocări, ispite, greutăți, nimeni nu este scutit. Ele vin și trec, și iar vin. Mai descurajată sunt când se repeta. Uneori am Impreza ca am plătit deja prețul și nu…
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Idealizing the past
We slept in the same room. We had the loft, where it was so peaceful, sometimes eerily quiet. You could hear your thoughts rumble. And the girls had bunk beds below. At some point we had a two people couch. A Chesterton. Then we had Jackie’s desk. With the best natural light. Then this toy…
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Hugs from Jackie
We have had a rough year. Actually the last three years were rough all in all. The moment we adopted Ivy, things changed. I was more tired, and she, my first daughter, pulled away. She never showed resentment toward the young sister. She adapted and tried. I also noticed her scoliosis the month after Ivy…
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The cost of raising kids
On a warm summer day, we were sitting on the sidewalk with the other moms, talking about having kids. And how many kids is manageable financially. Many parents I know took their kids to private kindergartens and private schools, which cost more money than we spend on a monthly basis. When we paid off our…
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Living offline
I had snapped a few cute pictures of my girls. The perfect light, their clever smile, with the house key adorning their neck, a sign of independence. I wanted to post it on insta as we played basketball in front of our house. We also had a street party. Everyone was having a good time.…
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Fruit of the spirit
But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control. I saw this verse from Galatians on instagram and I felt convicted in my heart. My tree is dry and bare. It has a few low fruit hanging. But it is not lush with joy, peace, forbearance, gentleness.…
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A week of service
“I appreciate everything you do for me. I know sometimes it doesn’t seem so, because I am a kid, but know that I see how much you do for us.” Said Jackie at dinner time. We woke up early, I did at least. Jackie slept in and it was good for her. I made some…
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Resourcefulness
I didn’t know I poses a certain creativity when it comes to solving problems. Asking questions was frowned upon when I was a kid. So I learned to find out answers and solutions. I did it out of necessity. But I think I also like it. I loved the success. The independence. I got good…
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Întrebări indiscrete
Uneori se repetă, alteori sunt doar invazive, și nu o data, întrebările indiscrete au fost puse de față cu copiii noștri adoptați. “O cunoști pe mama lor biologică? Sunt de etnie? Cum sau de ce au fost abandonați? De unde vin? Cum au ajuns la voi? I-ați ales voi? Ceva in noi se crispează la…
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Dificultăți sau oportunități de conectare
Ce provocări ne așteaptă dincolo de pragul adoptiei? Suntem pregătiți sa le facem față? Sunt întrebări cu care ne frământam noi toți părinții potențial adoptatori. Toți copiii adoptați ajung in familii cu diferite carențe: fizice, emoționale, sociale, spirituale. Chiar si dacă au recuperat deja mult la asistenții maternali. Unii poarta cu ei rănile la suprafața, alții…