Category: Adoption
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blocked care
“If I feel this way, others must experience similar feelings.” I have this unconfirmed-by-facts sense of familiarity with the world around me. It has been a launching pad for courage: “If not me, then who?” I feel nervous or afraid, but the truth needs to be spoken or the action be taken, and I step…
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Perspective
This is what most of us lack these days. You can’t will yourself into having genuine perspective. Sometimes you have to step out of your familiar surroundings and gain perspective. When Ivy talks over Jackie, Daddy uses the opportunity to impart the awareness of perspective. How does it feel when someone talks over you? Perspective…
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Burnout & hot chocolate
Burnout. I feel it all around me. Spread like wildfire. The burnout of life, the tedious day-in and day-out, of social distancing like a home arrest. We all used all our tricks to adapt, to survive and in some cases to thrive. We were not the most extravagant parents before, but we had our sense…
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Second Mothers book club concluded
Tocmai am încheiat cu succes (adică pline de încurajare si speranța) clubul de carte “A doua mama”. O mămica adoptiva m-a întrebat daca stiu de vreun grup de suport post adopție la care ar putea participa. M-a mișcat profund aceasta întrebare vulnerabila. Pentru ca am rezonat cu nevoia acestei noi prietene, de conectare si suport.…
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Grandkids
My nephew wanted to spend Friday night at bunici: his paternal grandparents, my parents, who live downstairs in the same building block as us. He is 3 and he is funny and self-confident and stubborn. He loves his little cousin Ivy, because she is near his age. He is loyal and self-aware and talks a…
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Povestea noastră pe scurt
La sfârsit de iarnă, la capătul puterilor, n-am știut dacă am ceva coerent de spus. Mă surprinde bucuria ce transpare în ochii mei, pentru că de fapt eram extrem de obosită. Am ales să accept invitația de a povesti despre adopție în cadrul acestui proiect, pentru că, așa cum editorul filmulețuilui a scos ce-i mai…
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Un an de acomodare
Gandindu-ma inapoi la primul an cu Jackie, imi aminteam ca prin vis ca a fost foarte greu. Foarte frumos dar epuizant. Aveam insa energie stocata amandoi. Bucuria noului statut de parinti, care vedeau lumea prin ochii unui copil, compensa orice greu. Imi amintesc ca eram mereu in alerta si nu ma puteam relaxa, nici cand…
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Timing
We noticed that when we correct one of the girls, the other one makes a point to let us know she loves us. This timing gave me foot for thought. I can easily read through the lines so I want to address it and redress it. The girls sense the tension and they want to…
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Love versus law
My intuition tells me to slow down my legalism in integrity. I’m hunted by the verse that says that God wins us over through love, not through punishment. I had a good day with my jackie. My big girl. Thoughtful, curious, kind. It pangs me when she asks if I still love her when she…
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Ritm de februarie
Ne-am tras sufletul in weekend. Fetele au dormit o noapte la bunici. Noi ne-am uitat la un film si ne-am culcat devreme. Am dormit neintrerupt. Evelyn vorbeste in somn. Tare. Clar. Nazal. Striga: “Mami, Dad!” Imi spune prin Somn ca a doua zi o sa ii fie dor de mine cat va fi la Gradinita.…
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A year with Evelyn
I started singing this song to Ivy tonight and she started crying. She said it makes her so emotional she doesn’t know why… both girls listened to my voice mesmerized as I sang this after dinner. I write this in awe because for the most part of the year, Evelyn asked me not to sing.…
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Doar biscuiți
O zi plină. Săptămana asta am ședințe online in fiecare zi. La 3:30 ii spui lui ivy ca am o conferinta si am nevoie de o ora neîntreruptă. Ivy se apuca de plâns: – Nu vreau sa ai conferinta! – De ce plângi? Ce-i baiu’? – Vreau sa stai cu mine. – Dar stau cu…