Author: Violeta
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What I pray for
Our new godchildren, whose marriage we witnessed this month. May God watch over them, strengthen their love and connection. May he braid into their marriage grace, patience, a servant heart. I pray for the two foster families that took care of my daughters. Who served so generously, who loved wholeheartedly. May they be refreshed, encouraged,…
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Foțu Feț – wash your hands
Dear Evelyn, Your sense of humor is becoming not just more apparent, but you are actually funny to me. You are a grumpy cat, when you want to. It doesn’t last long. Less than a minute. But you know how to show your disapproval of our choice of words, guidance or correction. I love how…
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Evelyn’s first day of kindergarten
J: How was your first day of kindergarten? Did you cry for Mami?E: Just a little bit in the morning. A boy cried all day. I told him his mami is coming soon. J: What did you learn?E: Nothing. I just played. J: Did you make any friends? What are they called?E: Ummm… colleagues. E:…
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Două surori acasă
Într-o săptămână avem noul certificat de naștere. Din aproape în aproape, mai adăugăm câte zece zile la finalizarea adopției. De la cererea de încuviințare a adopției, la decizia judecătorului trimisă prin poștă, la alte zece zile “drept de apel”. Apoi cererea de definitivare a deciziei, așteptarea formalităților ca apoi să ridicăm decizia definitivă și irevocabilă,…
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Anxiety
The best parenting is done through prayer. in a few days both my girls are starting school. If we cover our eyes and ears completely we remain uninformed and vulnerable and ignorant. If we listen too much to what everyone is saying, we are in danger of losing heart. Yesterday was a hard day. I…
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Decisions
It was almost easier when everyone was ordered to follow the same rules. The uncertainty and confusion at every level is mentally exhausting. 25 out of 27 parents attended the parent-teacher conference for the beginning of the school year. Our 3 year old kids are entering the the kindergarten system and it is terrifying. Our…
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Lessons
Some things need to be learned the hard way… even if it’s not really that hard. We told Ivy to put covered shoes on, just in case she want to ride her bike. She politely declined. Nope. She was certain she won’t ride her bike. “At all!” Even Jackie tried to persuade her, as she…
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“That’s not true!”
Miss candor here, Jaclyn “Speak-her-mind” Altmann, contradicted me when I told the bride at her wedding that she was happy to attend her bridal shower. She said outright: “it was so boring, I didn’t enjoy it.” Well, it was a zoom party for a bride to be. Neither girl had ever attended a themed party,…
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Responsibility
Parents need to learn to bluff. And take risks. And often, take a seat back and give time and space. Yesterday Jackie peeled 1kg of potatoes. She was so excited to do it. Two days ago I showed both girls how to peel potatoes and carrots and we made soup together. They subconsciously seek every…
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Perpetually
Whoa. Parenting is on my mind. A lot. This is the season in which I find myself. My predominant love language is acts of service. What a blessing that is, to combine my natural tendencies with my husband’s quality time and physical touch, expression of love. And gifts. We don’t speak exclusively one language. We…
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Unconditional love
It’s an Intertwined confidence that I feel. I’m otherwise comfortably humble, self conscious, and I enjoy a sense of invisibility. So I find my strong belief in my own lovability strange. Where did it come from? How was it built so sturdy and long term? What is the correlation between confidence and humility? More specifically…
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Trust and Truth
Yesterday we discussed about disciplining. At length. Jackie loves these philosophical conversations, situational, theoretical and practical. we reminisced about a time when Jackie said we are the most strict parents. And no other parent scolds their children as much as we do. Understandable sheltered perspective. I never saw other parents angry at their kids growing…