Author: Violeta
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Philotic link
This may have helped my daughter overcome incredible emotional and spiritual, social and intelectual hurdles. I lent her my strength without guardrails, without holding back. I actually let power pass through me – it was not my own power given to her. I have felt powerless at times, trying to help her and her hardening…
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Bored or engaged
Letting your kid burn through the stages of first romance is fascinating and gut-wrenching. But I remind myself that this is part of the learning process and her path is different than mine, and just as necessary for her. When young kids like each other they still have the freedom to express themselves, to discover…
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Entrepreneurial mindset
Kids may surprise us many times over if we are open to the possibilities. I don’t presume to know what they will do in life, even as I notice inclinations, interests, aptitudes. It is delightful to notice and image the possibilities. My left-handed junior, the visual learner, the technical and the architect type, she struggled…
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Low stakes
I’m impressed with j’s ability to navigate difficult conversations. She gets herself in sticky situations but just as graciously she comes out the other side stronger and wiser and clearer. As I occasionally make suggestions, after we chat for a long time, I tell her she is free to make her own decision. The stakes…
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Addictive butterflies
To stay clear headed when the first butterflies of romantic interest show up, and when you allow them to nest, it is harder and harder to sho them away. Because though they make a mess of things and it is not the right time for them to nest in your space, you like how they…
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Tag! You’re it!
I noticed how j interacts with the boy she likes. Similar to how she relates to Conrad. She is sarcastic, and bossy and uninterested. I wonder if it’s a subconscious thing. For the last 3 years we have had many girly talks, and I am afraid I have inspired them to be feminists through and…
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Transfers and anxiety
A familiar sense of agitation stirs in my stomach. It usually means I am alert and ready to complete a big task. But if this feeling lingers it erodes my stomach and my peace of mind. I am determined to observe my feelings and let them be. Take deep breath and pray about the outcomes…
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Ne ținem de cuvânt
Lecția din săptămâna altfel. Livrată cu un ton apăsat. Din păcate. “Sincer, eu nu prea am chef să merg mâine in excursie cu clasa” E vineri și se încheie săptămâna altfel. Apoi începe vacanța de Paști. A fost târg azi și zilele au fost pline de distracție și gustări delicioase. Ieșirea de mâine e scumpă…
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Why am I so invested?
I do care about my daughter. Her heart. Her feelings.I encourage her to be true to herselfAnd kind to others I listen and I get excited about this new chapterAnd I see her with new eyes I realize I feel ready to let her goTo explore her heartBut I feel the tug to remain closeTo…
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Glean
Glean (April 1st) I’m an intelectual hoarderExperiences that are difficultare valuablePain is inconsequentialJoy is a treat My daughter is going through a first romantic interestwith the boy next doorHe is also learning, growing, experimentingShy but determined And she is introspectiveBut she doesn’t fit the moldWill he have the patience, the courage to take her on?…
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Siblings
I was 4 years old and my brother Dan Paraschiv was 8. Already in 3rd grade, aware of life’s hardships – he was not a natural early riser and school was in session Monday through Saturday when he first started. Dan was always patient and kind. He protected me and taught me how to write…
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Intentional Connection Daily
Listening & Sharing. We could fill tens of books with our conversations. But we are not. I’m starting to see there is no need. I hope they will remember much of the wisdom I passed on, but I trust they will remember my heart. “You will reap what you sow.” (Galatians 6:7) They may not remember…