Cathartic journaling of an adoptive mom.
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Penultima vizită post-adopție
Trăim cu impresia că fetița noastră de cinci ani știe. Chiar deunăzi am vorbit despre asta. Despre faptul că nu a crescut în pântecele meu. Își amintește chiar numele mic (foarte comun) al mamei biologice. I l-am spus acum doi ani, când ne-a luat prin suprindere cu întrebarea, în timp ce conduceam. În plus, m-a…
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Cuvinte și siguranță
E sâmbătă și târziu. Conrad se apucă să spele vasele după cină. Jackie tot printre picioarele noastre, ca și Rufus de altfel. Bucătăria deodata pare neîncăpătoare. Conrad o roagă pe Jackie să meargă în cameră. Ea zice Nu. “Stau aici.” Pe un ton răstit Conrad îi strigă numele. Rar reverberează așa baritonul lui. De altfel,…
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The valley of waiting
I’m walking through the valley. My vantage point is disadvantageous but I walk in faith. And I ponder. Is faith passive? Is it something I say to chalk-off my inability to cope with the unknown? Is it something I do when I have no plan and I feel stuck? Our liminal space. It’s bare. A…
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Our moral code
Twisting the reality feels powerful. In parallel it is also a creative process. What I want to share is about the natural consequences of (not) telling the truth. I’d venture to say that we’ve all tried it. Most of us lied at some point. Generally speaking, kids do it to get out of trouble. Adults…
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Book launch party
When we share our heart, our art… and we are blessed in return a thousand fold. A cosy gathering where stories are brought to light and life happens. The most precious gift one could receive nowadays is time with undivided attention. After an evening of friendship, talking about adoption, sharing snacks and stories, receiving unexpected…
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Deeply rooted
The book launching party is happening in a few days. Looking forward to sharing the joy of adoption, what it means to us, how we got here… And answer questions. I am experiencing a whirlwind of activities and emotions. But of all things I’ve been involved with, writing this book and talking about it has…
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What if?
It’s hard to believe that a year ago already, we were pondering, and deciding in earnest, to go for the second adoption. Then we found out about Jackie’s sister. Here is how our faith is being tested though. We don’t know the timeline, we have no power over moving things faster. I visited the adoption…
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Who is this book for?
This newly published book has been very well received, with enthusiasm and anticipation. At first look, as well as after poring over it, readers say it is beautiful. It’s educational, as well as emotional and eye opening. I personally still take it as a reminder and encouragement for better parenting, as well as a therapeutic…
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First 100
Prima sută de cărți a pornit spre voi, în toată lumea, sau e deja în mâinle vastre. M-aș bucura să aud de la voi, ce v-a plăcut, ce v-a mișcat, ce v-a provocat. Puteți comenta mai jos, sau îmi puteți trimite un mesaj personal la contact@violetaaltmann.com Pentru comenzi, scrieți-mi un mesaj personal cu adresa de…
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Eye contact
I am reading about the early stage of development in children, and about what gives them a sense of security and helps them anchor with stability in this world. It is eye contact. Babies being mesmerizing and cute is an adaptation for survival. It draws our eyes to them. To look at them. And that…
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Hair
For the last few weeks we’ve had one quarrel with Jackie. Hair. And her stubbornness to not keep it out of her face. After a lovely bob she got last year around this time, her bangs grew thickly all the way bellow her jaw. We’ve been pondering a new style, a fresh haircut, while keeping…
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Draw a circle
There is an exercise one can do with little kids, as young as Jackie, 5 years of age. I read about it in the “Twenty things…” adoption book. The social worker hosting our post adoption group also mentioned it. On a piece of paper have your child draw a person. Then have them draw a…
