Cathartic journaling of an adoptive mom.
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MomCo June 2024
I struggled with how much credit these women gave me. Being used to low expectations, I worried about finding my comfortable place. But there was something that kept me around. Maybe the seasons of rest, of distance, of absence, they gave me courage to draw near again. It has been obvious to me that I…
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La cusut.
Se lungește tare mult anul școlar. Iar luna Iunie e plină de programări. Examen de clarinet, excursii, poze de clasa a IV-a, vizite la dentist, ieșire la cabana cu clasa, ziua copilului si ziua adopției. Duminica seara Ivy a realizat ca i-s descusuți in fund pantalonii doriți. S-a gândit ca ar fi bine să-i cos.…
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Lideri MomCo
Așa-i ca ți-e oarecum incomod sa te prezinți ca lider? In România sunt 100 de coordonatori de grupe și peste 1000 de mame care participă la întâlnirile MomCo. Am crescut foarte repede și e timpul să reflectăm puțin la rolul nostru ca lideri. “Cine vrea să fie întâi între voi să slujească “ a zis…
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The preference for guidance
I want to trust that my daughter will be responsible. Yesterday I set the baseline for clarity. I told her I don’t like to be told what to do. I never did. So before I even started school I would anticipate requests, advice, commands, demands. I’d stay one step ahead. That built a reputation for…
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Daddy’s role
Lest we forget Godin the season of abundance. David praised Godwhen things were going great.I find ourselves in a season of laughter.I choose to not be afraidthat this too shall pass.I trust that God is with us nowand through whatever comes,whenever it comes. This middle childhood daysFinding our footingWhile kids find their rhythmAgain and again…
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Boundaries set by little neighbors
“Don’t come on our drive way!” yells in a tiny voice our little neighbor girl. We were coming back from a walk with Rufus. I said ok. But then she kept repeating this boundary for all to hear. It didn’t even cross my mind to go over. People’s driveways are private property, and unless I’m…
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Acknowledge the good in everything
Pay attention how you speak about the good and the bad in your life. Yesterday it hit me. Both girls are anxious about the long trip we will endeavor to take to Bosnia. And though they have never been to Trebinje, they anticipate crowded pools. Their complaining irritates me. But I think there is a…
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In good company
Introverts don’t try hard to be part of many groups. But something they do is follow through with what they committed to do. They get stuff done but have to rely on others to see the introverts who don’t advertise their skills. In the work place we learn to document what we do, market our…
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Self-confidence built by necessity
When we do for our kids things that they can do for themselves we steal their sense of self esteem and self confidence. Insecure parents do things for their kids to feed off of that satisfaction of accomplishment. As a second / youngest kid, I always wondered when is it my turn to be the…
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A new chapter of connection
I was organizing the information for an event on Saturday, while preparing some communication material and listening to Monday night study at Iris led by Beni. Jackie was next to me on the couch, chatting with her friend on whatsapp and researching some info about the Aurora. We sat like that for nearly an hour.…
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Believe!
In my youth I was underestimated. It was so freeing! I was underestimated by people whose approval I didn’t absolutely need. That created some space between my heart and the hurt of distrust. My parents saw me and liked me and believed in me. Most other adults I suspected they didn’t have eyes for my…
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MomCo Iris Team
When I got promoted to Lead Creative, I had been a stand-in Lead for a few months to try out the role. I was the youngest in the group. But though I don’t like telling people what to do, my colleagues and managers believed I’m the right person for the role. My enthusiasm, communication skills,…
