Cathartic journaling of an adoptive mom.
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Urgent matters & saying no to friends
Two decades ago my brother was telling me about the quadrants of busyness, formed on the axes of important and urgent. Where do you think we spend most time in? And where should we actually focus on? Important and not urgent. That should fill most of our time. Instead we get so wrapped up in…
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Devenind mamă
Am publicat recent o carte pe subiectul adopției. Am pornit de la premiza ca dacă eu simt așa, trebuie să fie și alți părinți care trec prin stări similare. În unele capitole mă adresez direct părinților. În altele fac haz de necaz. Și în multe dintre ele pun reflectorul asupra credinței și cum aceasta dă…
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Responding wisely
We can’t control what people do. We can only control how we respond. It’s not what you think. In my quest to cut things off my endless list, my projects list, my to list, as I succeed pulling away from some things, many flood to take their place. Monday was busy. Busy at the pool.…
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New MomCo Iris year
In my quest to clear my daily schedule, my mind, my life, I have marked many good programs for termination. I am too emotionally spent to distinguish between them. But I hope I can restart some, if they seem to have been kept on the safe column. I’m not too worried though. I feel that…
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Two weeks notice
When we experience burnout we reach a stage of numbness. Like our nerves get literally fried. There is only a smoldering amber left in our burnt offering. Someone said today on a podcast that people reach burnout when they are self-centered. When they make everything about themselves. Those who serve freely are not bound by…
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MomCo Iris planning
Sometimes I think we are too tired and too old to start new things. We look around and others seem to have it all together and figured out. Every group needs a catalyst, or so we think. Some people are natural motivators, extroverts, good communicators, visionaries, with endless energy and ideas. But the reality is…
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Burnout creeping in
Everyone wants a piece of me. I feel my body tense, trying to shake things off, burdens, pressure, suffocating demands. Even 1st grade homework help needed is distracting me. I think my voice is tense even if I try to cover it up with low tones and softens. The hardness creeps in. The irritation. The…
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Kid tiredness
Jackie coordinated a sleepover with 5 girls in her class. They got to the age where they make plans and have a mind of their own. I love this stage. As they talked among themselves they reached the conclusion that Jackie would have most space. She brought it up with me and I said I’ll…
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Presiune de grup
Am lăsat câteva zile să treacă, să mi se catalizeze emoțiile și să mi se clarifice gândurile. Într-un colectiv drag mie, m-am trezit constrânsă să accept să continui într-un rol de care deja mă detașasem mental. Am simțit ca am alergat cursa întreaga și am ajuns la capăt cu bine. Slavă Domnului. Anxietatea care mă…
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Our evening talks
“Mom, when I get in bed, my mind starts to worry about all kinds of things. And I can’t stop my mind. I fear you will die. Who will take care of me? I worry I won’t be able to read. I can’t get away from these thoughts. Can you teach me how to pray?” In the…
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Ai noștri pentru o vreme
Trăiesc cu gândul că la un moment dat îmi voi lua rămas bun de la copiii mei. Îmi pregătesc inima să îi văd luându-ți zborul din cuib, cu emoții de bucurie și dor. Eu însămi am plecat devreme de acasă. Când am semnat actele finale de adopție, mi-a trecut prin minte faptul ca în sfârșit…
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Bucuria de a adopta
De când mă știu, doresc să am un domeniu de expertiză. Sistemul nostru școlar ne învață să fim buni la toate, apoi să ne reprofilăm la nevoie, să ne adaptăm. Cel puțin ăsta e mesajul perceput de mine încă din școala primară. Parcă abia devenisem lider în mediul profesional că repede am și intrat în lumea…
