Cathartic journaling of an adoptive mom.
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Anger as a gift
I did not get angry before becoming a mom. I felt angry but I didn’t give in to this feeling. It wasn’t necessary. There was no place or use for it. I was never wronged in such a way to cause me to call out my anger and use it as a shield. On the…
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Prayer for wisdom
As a little girl and a teen I always prayed for wisdom. There were so many things I felt I didn’t know. I tried to not tempt God. I asked for things that He promised He could give me. “Ask for wisdom and you shall receive it in abundance.” But wisdom is like a river.…
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Adoptive families together
We get easily influenced by negative things and thoughts. But consistency in pursuing what is good brings encouragement and hope. We don’t change the world through some meeting, but that sense of belonging, the joy of adoption, the encouragement through stories, funny & clever, are a gift. We end the year managing to get together…
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Intentional noticing
Today’s lesson was about housework and good observing work. How come a mom’s mental load is so heavy? Because she is so good at observing what needs to be done. I heard a mom’s story about using this phrase and the effects of it. And when traveling, when her kids used the public bathroom which…
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Perseverance
As I write about everything that moves me, I wish I took better writing classes. I wrote lame poetry as an early teen, and my literary interpretations in school were better than average, and yet, I feel that there is an untapped wisdom and creativity in writing. And though I practice, i don’t know how…
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Permission
“Who told you, you can do this?” I ask my 7 year old, taken aback by her actions. “I told myself” she answered with an obvious “duh!” confident voice. I also think through every situation fast. I do. But I find myself in her predicament often. I do decide for myself even when it’s borderline.…
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Clay at MomCo
I have a trailblazer friend. She is extremely talented and, since I’ve known her, she has tried her hand at many arts. And yet, finding your passion is not about being talented but about being brave, open and perseverent. And there are seasons we go through. She says she loves beautiful things and I believe she…
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Studiu de caz. Paralelă.
Am citit în doua zile cartea “The tipping point”. Punctul de cotitură, într-un fel. In 1960 pe o insula din Sudul Pacificului, in Micronezia, un băiat de 17 ani s-a sinucis pentru ca tatăl lui l-a gonit de acasă când acesta nu a reușit sa facă ceva. In mesajul lui de rămas bun i-a mulțumit…
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Therapeutic retrospection
The girls wanted to watch old videos of themselves. I indulged a trip to the past that lasted an hour. We nearly peed our pants laughing. We watched videos from their first days with us and the few years later. Them playing, us together and mostly regular life at the apartment. Those first years seemed…
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Outer world vs inner reality
I have two very different kids. One is in my face. The other one is very reserved. I have learned to engage with the outspoken one, who is so different than me. It challenged and changed me for the better. What shall I do with the one whose personality is too similar to mine? You’d think…
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MVT 2024 Romania
We hurried through the exodus traffic to get out of Cluj, on a Friday afternoon, anticipating the cold mountain air. And the silence of autumn. Each brought a small luggage, and all five of us piled into a car. Thus we began our chatting to reconnect and tell stories about life and the kids’ extracurricular…
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MVT 2024 – Valea Drăganului
Ne-am grăbit să ieșim din Cluj într-o vineri după amiaza de toamnă, anticipând aerul rece de munte. Și liniștea. Cu bagaje mici, ne-am urcat toate cinci într-o mașină și am început din mers poveștile de reconectare sau cunoaștere. În astfel de ieșiri, tot timpul aflam ceva nou din viața dinainte de copii, despre aventurile în…
