Cathartic journaling of an adoptive mom.
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Permission
“Who told you, you can do this?” I ask my 7 year old, taken aback by her actions. “I told myself” she answered with an obvious “duh!” confident voice. I also think through every situation fast. I do. But I find myself in her predicament often. I do decide for myself even when it’s borderline.…
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Clay at MomCo
I have a trailblazer friend. She is extremely talented and, since I’ve known her, she has tried her hand at many arts. And yet, finding your passion is not about being talented but about being brave, open and perseverent. And there are seasons we go through. She says she loves beautiful things and I believe she…
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Studiu de caz. Paralelă.
Am citit în doua zile cartea “The tipping point”. Punctul de cotitură, într-un fel. In 1960 pe o insula din Sudul Pacificului, in Micronezia, un băiat de 17 ani s-a sinucis pentru ca tatăl lui l-a gonit de acasă când acesta nu a reușit sa facă ceva. In mesajul lui de rămas bun i-a mulțumit…
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Therapeutic retrospection
The girls wanted to watch old videos of themselves. I indulged a trip to the past that lasted an hour. We nearly peed our pants laughing. We watched videos from their first days with us and the few years later. Them playing, us together and mostly regular life at the apartment. Those first years seemed…
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Outer world vs inner reality
I have two very different kids. One is in my face. The other one is very reserved. I have learned to engage with the outspoken one, who is so different than me. It challenged and changed me for the better. What shall I do with the one whose personality is too similar to mine? You’d think…
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MVT 2024 Romania
We hurried through the exodus traffic to get out of Cluj, on a Friday afternoon, anticipating the cold mountain air. And the silence of autumn. Each brought a small luggage, and all five of us piled into a car. Thus we began our chatting to reconnect and tell stories about life and the kids’ extracurricular…
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MVT 2024 – Valea Drăganului
Ne-am grăbit să ieșim din Cluj într-o vineri după amiaza de toamnă, anticipând aerul rece de munte. Și liniștea. Cu bagaje mici, ne-am urcat toate cinci într-o mașină și am început din mers poveștile de reconectare sau cunoaștere. În astfel de ieșiri, tot timpul aflam ceva nou din viața dinainte de copii, despre aventurile în…
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Autonomie
În pofida dificultăților, limitărilor, greșelilor, indisponibilități adulților din viața mea când eram copil, sentimentul de autonomie m-a protejat de percepția ca traumă a evenimentelor din viața mea . Cred până în adâncul ființei mele că: “Pot face ceva. Sunt în control. Nu îmi place situația în care mă găsesc. Schimb ceva.” Mă aud zicând ca…
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Să ne învățăm copiii să spere cu îndrăzneală
Teologia credinței are multe nuanțe. Mulți dintre noi credem în funcție de personalitatea sau mediul cultural în care ne-am dezvoltat. Unii își cer drepturile, alții așteaptă cu răbdare să li se facă dreptate. Sa li se dea partea. Cu cele mai bune intenții, un tată împărtășește cum fiica lui l-a învățat să apere cu îndrăzneală…
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Faith & Politics
What a sensitive combination of words. Do they go together? In the eve of presidential elections in US and elections everywhere in Europe this year, we bravely or recklessly decided to tackle them together, and get the input of public servants from all over the board, with different affiliations, background & party lines. From different…
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Gender identity
My 11 year old daughter asked two girls she didn’t know, who were waiting in front of the bathroom at the conference, if the bathrooms were all occupied. They answered with “this is the girls bathroom”. My daughter only responded with “I know”. She wanted to cut her hair short to be cool, different, and…
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Yancey
At 18 I received a fantastic book from Brian, titled “what’s so amazing about grace”. After the lemudim camp in Valea Draganului, I took the train by myself, I was 19, and traveled to Suceava. I read the whole time. My english was not great and got probably 80% of the book, but I devoured…
