Violeta Altmann

Category: Parenting

  • Stop

    Stop

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    It’s Saturday. We went up to our house in progress to enjoy the Spring sun, on the back porch. As I was chatting with Camilla, I hear Jackie come into the house crying. Conrad meets her at the door that stood wide open this whole time. She is shaken and it’s the first time I…

  • Reflective winter psalm poem

    Reflective winter psalm poem

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    Psalm 93-94 The howling anger was quietedAt the foot of the cross The circumstances in essence unchangedThere was peace in the eye of the storm As emotions and annoyances stirI keep them in checkI push them down with easeI stuff them deeperAnd peace is kept. A month, two months go byAnd I feel less and…

  • Modelare vs cizelare

    Modelare vs cizelare

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    Cât suntem tineri, maleabili, flexibili, ne modelam. Odată ce ne-am întărit obiceiurile, mintea, inima, daca vrem schimbare, trebuie sa cizelam. Desigur e mai zgomotos si mai dureros sa cioplim la caracterul nostru, dar si in procesul de cizelare, putem fi un material bun sau unul încăpățânat, si aspru si sfărâmicios, sensibil.  Avem o fereastra de…

  • TBRI and attachment style introspection

    TBRI and attachment style introspection

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    Apparently my personality style thrives on efficiency. It’s true. When a friend made the observation about my Myers Briggs I had an aha moment.  When we decided to adopt, I thought I would efficiently bounce between experiences and double down on sharing or applying my knowledge. Much like walking, one foot in front of another,…

  • Timing

    Timing

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    We noticed that when we correct one of the girls, the other one makes a point to let us know she loves us. This timing gave me foot for thought. I can easily read through the lines so I want to address it and redress it. The girls sense the tension and they want to…

  • Smartypants

    Smartypants

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    These stylish kind of pants start to fit just right at around 7 years of age. Or so it seems. I frankly don’t like the look of them. I would prefer a dash of humility, self-awareness, attentiveness, emptying the cup of self to make room for valuable experiences and wisdom. I took note of personalities…

  • Love versus law

    Love versus law

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    My intuition tells me to slow down my legalism in integrity. I’m hunted by the verse that says that God wins us over through love, not through punishment. I had a good day with my jackie. My big girl. Thoughtful, curious, kind. It pangs me when she asks if I still love her when she…

  • Minciunici și minciunele

    Minciunici și minciunele

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    A nins de un metru. Azi comandam ultimele lucruri necesare pentru casa in progres. Il las pe Conrad langa Dedeman si merg s-o iau pe Jackie de la școala. Îmi propun o atitudine jovială, senina, calda. E o zi buna de altfel. Dar as vrea sa transmit liniște si siguranța copiilor mei, in tumultul asta…

  • Diconfortul maturizării

    Diconfortul maturizării

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    Am avut un weekend tensionat cu temele la mate. Simțul resopnsabilității, exacerbat la mine, dezechilibrează, dacă nu sunt atentă, responsabilizarea celor din jur. E ușor să lași pe altul să facă, mai ales dacă te poți baza că face bine și la timp. în mediul profesional a te înconjura cu oameni de încredere și harnici…

  • Ritm de februarie

    Ritm de februarie

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    Ne-am tras sufletul in weekend. Fetele au dormit o noapte la bunici. Noi ne-am uitat la un film si ne-am culcat devreme. Am dormit neintrerupt. Evelyn vorbeste in somn. Tare. Clar. Nazal. Striga: “Mami, Dad!” Imi spune prin Somn ca a doua zi o sa ii fie dor de mine cat va fi la Gradinita.…

  • Rhythm

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    it doesn’t take much to make us happy. Parents learn to lower their expectation and become really easy to please, the more discomfort they experience on a regular basis. The things I long for these days are: respect for boundaries, gratefulness, and mind engagement… Both girls started school this week. Them having a routine is…

  • Doar biscuiți

    Doar biscuiți

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    O zi plină. Săptămana asta am ședințe online in fiecare zi. La 3:30 ii spui lui ivy ca am o conferinta si am nevoie de o ora neîntreruptă. Ivy se apuca de plâns:  – Nu vreau sa ai conferinta! – De ce plângi? Ce-i baiu’? – Vreau sa stai cu mine.  – Dar stau cu…