Category: Adoption
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My hope is in the Lord
I wait upon the Lord New season I put everything out of my mind and delighted in the blossoming nature, the breeze, the smell of flowering buds. This Spring feels spectacular; it’s quite enchanting and in deep contrast with the reality of the world economy and health care system. Ivy refused to call us for…
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Faith does not exclude the plea for justice.
Adopting is like building a house. The procedure is complex and it involves many specialists. It takes time and commitment. But every chapter can and should be tackled efficiently and with a sense of urgency. It says so in the law. The eagerness to move into the new house is valid and justified. The eagerness…
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Conversation with my Father
-“I don’t think we can endure 30 more days of separation” I cry out-“Sure you can!” says God with Fatherly patience, smiling at me, as clear as day. (Those who hope in the Lord will renew their strength. They will soar on wings like eagles; they will run and not grow weary, they will walk…
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If not me, then who?
I was born responsible. As the youngest child, that’s rather strange. Quite Unusual. On the other hand, I know I’ve been well cared for, because I know how to rest in the care of trustworthy people. I know what good leaders are, intuitively. So I speak up. Though I was the quietest kid throughout my…
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Not yet
For two years I felt powerless (much like we all feel right now in an ever prolonging quarantine). So stuck. Helpless. All I wanted was to hear of progress on my daughters adoptability. At some point, my frenetic emotions were suffocating. I did the best I knew. Whatever was in my power. And that was…
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Durerea distanței
Înțelegerea etapelor durerii este un început. Dar, de câte ori vorbesc despre etapele durerii, trebuie să le reamintesc oamenilor că etapele nu sunt liniare și pot să nu se întâmple în această ordine. Nu este o hartă, dar oferă niște schele pentru această lume necunoscută. Există o negare, despre care spunem foarte devreme: acest virus…
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What are we waiting for?
We’re wait-experts. But waiting is not a good place to be in. The best place to be in is the present. Even if you’re tempted to label it as terrible. It’s not terrible. It is what it is. But our mental suffering occurs when we cling onto the past or the future. Our life lesson…
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Ideation
Among my strengths, there’s ideation. Which can be overwhelming for others – so I filter a lot of my ideas of development and improvement. It had become increasingly painful to FaceTime every day with Ivy. By the way: Ivy sounded like Evé -> Romanian Ivi not Aivi. Honestly, how many interesting things can you talk…
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Beauty in the storm clouds
The silver lining. I love the silver lining. As I sense a wave of embracing the present all around me, that sweet acceptance that allows the mind to clear. Although not much has changed yet, in our current situation, I find this worldwide quarantine to be an excellent experiment of the mind, an X-ray of…
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Thoughts from isolation
Understanding the stages of grief is a start. But whenever I talk about the stages of grief, I have to remind people that the stages aren’t linear and may not happen in this order. It’s not a map but it provides some scaffolding for this unknown world. There’s denial, which we say a lot of…
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Encouragement
When Jackie and Ivy took the first picture together, Jackie smiled a beautiful toothless smile. Her two front teeth were still invisible. Today, a month later, both front teeth are half way out, white and straight. Jackie looks older and wiser. I just got a call from our adoption case manager. Strangely, we feel more…
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Adapting
We’ve taken the maintenance of our relationship with our youngest daughter to FaceTime. Not my favorite. But it’s better than nothing. Most of us live in denial. When that doesn’t fly anymore, we try and live in the future. The present doesn’t make sense. It takes a great deal of mental discipline to focus on…