Violeta Altmann

Category: Adoption

  • Greu

    —

    by

    Violeta
    in , , , ,

    Dragi părinți, e greu. Relația cu copiii noștri uneori pare unidirecțională. Ei au nevoie de noi, au emoții mari, complexe, și noi dăm și tot dăm. Primim uneori bucuria unei îmbrățișări dulci și sincere, drăgălășenia lor mai ales când dorm și nu mai au nimic de zis sau de cerut… dar pentru multă vreme relația…

  • Adopția între teologie și practică

    —

    by

    Violeta
    in , ,

    de Russell Moore – Adoptat pe viață Adopția e, pe de o parte, “Evanghelie”. Prin ea, adopția ne spune cine suntem noi in calitate de copii ai Tatălui. Adopția ca Evanghelie ne spune despre identitatea, moștenirea și misiunea noastră ca fii ai lui Dumnezeu. Adopția mai este si “misiune”. Prin ea, adoptia ne spune ce scop…

  • Nevoile generale ale copiilor

    —

    by

    Violeta
    in , ,

    Nevoile generale ale copilului sunt de fapt, o particularizare, la vârsta copilăriei a eternelor nevoi umane formulate de Maslow şi alţi autori. Dragoste şi securitate Reprezintă o nevoie permanentă în copilărie, dar la vârsta mică este nevoia cea mai importantă. Prin această nevoie copilul îşi construieşte ataşamentul. De măsura în care va fi satisfăcută această…

  • Cum pot părinții să spună copiilor lor că sunt adoptați?

    —

    by

    Violeta
    in ,

    de Franz Rohr O tânără mămică a fost întrebată dacă îi va spune fiicei ei că este adoptată. A zâmbit și a răspuns: „Nu credeți că are dreptul sa știe că am fost atât de entuziasmată atunci când am plecat să o cunosc că mi-am uitat și bigudiurile în par?“ Un tătic care, atunci când…

  • Proactive not reactive

    Proactive not reactive

    —

    by

    Violeta
    in , , ,

    We’re exhausted trying to catch up with our eldest daughter. She entered a new season of independence from us, of self awareness and curiosity about her strength and boundaries. And we’ve been playing catch-up, reacting to her mind boggling experiments. They make no sense. I don’t think there is a reasoning behind them. Ideas come…

  • Balm for the soul

    Balm for the soul

    —

    by

    Violeta
    in ,

    We don’t lay such a heavy burden on our youngest daughter. Like a summer cool breeze, she rustles among us, with grace, love, kindness. Where does it all come from? How can she bless us more that we bless her? She’s been home full time for three weeks now. She verbalizes her adoption. Talks about…

  • Dentist

    Dentist

    —

    by

    Violeta
    in ,

    We walk to the funky shaped rooftop building – The dentist office. We arrive 5 minutes early, as usual. Ivy is a chipper as ever. How wonderful for a follow up dentist appointment. Little did I know… Ivy had a black hole of premolar. Ever growing. All that Nutella for breakfast or desert after dinner.…

  • Our first trip to the mountains

    Our first trip to the mountains

    —

    by

    Violeta
    in , , ,

    So many times we felt her absence. Even before we decided in earnest to adopt again, I wondered who are we having fun without. A strange yet vivid feeling. After two intense weeks of appointments and exhausting change, worry and noise, hard work and tears, Friday we decided to go to the mountains on a…

  • Precious Jewels

    Precious Jewels

    —

    by

    Violeta
    in , , , ,

    “Lift up your eyes and look around; all your children gather and come to you. As surely as I live,” declares the Lord, “you will wear them all as ornaments; you will put them on, like a bride.”— ‭‭Isaiah‬ ‭49:18‬‬ God lives.I lift my eyes upAnd see the sun riseThe mountains bowtheir tallest peaks A…

  • Worry grounded and lessened with facts

    Worry grounded and lessened with facts

    —

    by

    Violeta
    in , ,

    This morning I went on a trail of calls, to figure out where to make a pediatric orthopedic appointment. The COVID pandemic has caused chaos in the system. Surprisingly though, we managed to easily book an appointment today (a new necessary step in visiting any hospital given the pandemic) we arrived on time and saw…

  • I dream of death

    —

    by

    Violeta
    in , , ,

    Jackie dreams of death.Her death. Our death. We carry heavy burdensOf painful changeOf life and love. There is sicknessto be dealt withAnd as I sit in the dentist chairUpholding my youngestShe is braveAnd sits still through the procedure She bonds with meAs I help herTo undergo the dental work Somehow she knowsIf for her long…

  • Worry

    —

    by

    Violeta
    in , , , ,

    Interesting trend. I feel overwhelmed. Pessimistic. I worry about the girls, their health. This week we had appointments every day. Monday the general practitioner, Tuesday the social worker visit, Wednesday the dentist, Thursday we go see an orthopedic specialist. Jackie appears to develop scoliosis, ivy’s ribcage is oddly shaped. This is a known issue, due…