Author: Violeta
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On belonging
“Fitting in is about assessing a situation and becoming who you need to be to be accepted. Belonging, on the other hand, doesn’t require us to change who we are; it requires us to be who we are.” Brene Brown Something or Someone brought us together, even though we are from all walks of life, with…
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Despre schimbare
Le povesteam fetelor zilele trecute că deși știam adânc în ființă mea ca suntem pe drumul cel bun, ca adopția este soluția situației noastre ca familie, mă ispitea îndoiala. Schimbarea e grea, dezradacinarea dureroasa, re-atasarea un proces anevoios, și totuși a rămâne fiecare unde suntem nu este o soluție fezabila. Doar evitam inevitabilul. Da, copiii noștri…
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Stand up and walk
I do not know how to mingle with every important cool person, though my social life is full. It’s too much. What happened to my incognito 🥸 structured simpler life? I am invited here and there and I haven’t learned to say no. For as strong and independent I like to think of myself as, my inability…
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Uninvited
The clicks of youth, the exclusion and the standards by which friendships are pursued, it is an age old drama and yet like nothing I’ve seen before. Especially when it comes to a randomized mixed group, like school or neighborhood or church, where we ought to learn to embrace those who are not like us,…
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Black and white
I was re-reading yesterday a “letter to my daughters” I was invited to contribute with for a noteworthy magazine called the woman. I still stand by what I wrote, but I felt so strongly then that a foundation of belief (as in identity and faith) is my most valuable gift. By comparison everything else faded.…
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În spatele cortinei
Nu ne îngrijorăm de copiii noștri când ieșim în lume. Sunt adaptabili, respectuoși, buni și generoși. Doar între oameni realizez succesul consecvenței îndrumării copiilor noștri, conectării și corectării cu smerenie și curaj. Ne bucurăm de ei și cu ei, și ne place că sunt ca un vânt cald și plăcut în contextele sociale. Suntem recunoscători…
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Prayer
If I were to create a chart, a graph of my emotional stability and my prayer life, I think I would see some direct correlation. I’m not that nerdy though. Alas, the last few months, I have coasted, trying to regain my balance and did not dig deep into introspection and prayer. I talk to…
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Emotions expressed
Growing up I think most of my emotions were welcomed. I was an observant kid but I was still a kid. One time though, I got lost in cernauti in Ukraine when I was 5. After mama found me, we were walking a little bewildered on the sidewalk, and I hit my head on an…
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Social context matters
When I traveled to California with “work and travel” the first summer, my friends there tried their best to help me. My host drove me to apply for jobs. Another friends put a good word with some of his old employers. None of them pan out. I remember now how overwhelmed and frozen I felt.…
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I went to bed pretty annoyed with my husband
He has been under the weather this week. Exhaustion lowers his immune system and we had a bbq on Saturday. The smoke irritated his throat. Made it vulnerable to spring viruses. I don’t know exactly. We are going through the motions with life. I drive a lot. A glorified chauffeur. People had random expectations or…
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Generosity
There are quotes that pop into my head, when it comes to generosity. “Give to the one who asks of you” But in the same breath I hear: Be wise and use your discernment. Be intentional and set clear boundaries. Too easily we, with our human nature, go from gratitude to expectation and then to…
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A moment of desperation
I’m going to be irreverent when it comes to family life. I’m going to compare it to a day job. As we jumped into parenting when our kids were age 3, and took on big responsibilities and learned as we went along, the rewards were great but the mental load was also great. The longest…