Cathartic journaling of an adoptive mom.
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Invisible
Taking pictures has been a passion of mine since I was a teenager, when you had to develop negatives and print them on paper. So photography came with a cost. I wasn’t particularly good at it, but I captured moments and emotions. I have family photos from 50 years ago that my uncle took. My…
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La jumătatea claselor primare
Am petrecut cu prima fiica primii ani de școală in pandemie. Nu mai fusesem in acel sezon ca părinți si ne-am adaptat fără așteptări. Nici n-am știut cât de bine ne era de fapt. Învățătoarea s-a adaptat si ea, si a dat tonul bine, mai ales ca apucasem clasa pregătitoare in scoli. Am ascultat multe…
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gâște migratoare
Intr-un cârd de gâște mic, familia mea, comunitatea mea, grupurile mele de voluntariat, zbor în vârf. Am obosit. Și aș face schimb. Să taie altcineva frontul de aer, să mă adăpostesc în urma cuiva. Îmi asum responsabilitatea prezenta dar vreau să urmez uneori un lider bun care știe încotro merge (sau zboară, după caz) Nu…
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To honor my instinct
Listen well. Take action. Respect my intuition. So it will continue to speak clearly So I could hear itSo it can steer me clear of dangerous paths This is the hardest. To believe that what I want is important. This is an ache I carry from the time I was my kids’ current age. Though I was most…
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Perspective
Pe site-ul copii.gov.ro sunt povești emoționate și reale și încurajatoare despre adopție. Majoritatea scrise în primii ani, poveștile încă proaspete, și în mod evident romantice. Dar după o vreme, chiar cu cele mai bune intenții, subiectul adopției se prăfuiește. Obosim de atâta atenție, de povara de a fi diferit, și vrem să ne ascundem, să…
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The Proverbs…
Are my refugeMy childhood fortfamiliar and comfortingI would turn to this bookOver and overSince my preteen years. A Solid groundunchanged in essenceBut revealing new life,Hope, clarity, direction. Committing it to memorywithout trying to memorize it. It will be a strange journeyTo undertake with others. I don’t recall precisely what drew meto the book of Proverbsin…
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Authority
If you have little to no authority over your child when he is 3, what makes you think you will have authority when he is 5 or 10 or 15? Practice early. It’s easier the sooner you begin. Get your hands dirty. Keep your heart clean. Authority isn’t demanded nor imposed nor begged for. Authority…
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wide awake
We had a great summer. A pretty fantastic year actually. After the few hard decisions of deleting WhatsApp on Jackie’s phone, and taking a break from school drama, we relished in the peace of distance. After school started, Jackie asked if she can have WhatsApp re-installed. She said she will respect its time limit and…
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Expectations & people pleasing
Mid life adults struggle with people pleasing. The idea in itself is not inherently bad, but when we stop listening to our own wishes or preferences, we can be in danger of losing ourselves alltogether. I wanted to please my parents. And watching my brother test the waters with daring courage, I stayed clear from…
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The confidence built in silence
For a parent it takes a lot of practice to step back and let the kids become responsible for themselves. Let them make mistakes if you already warned them or gave them the advice needed. This week the music teacher told them that of any of them plays any instrument to bring it to school…
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The mistakes I make by taking over
Giving feedback is easier said than done. Being honest and kind and ferm in the moment is one of the hardest things one can do – and it’s impossible without practice, or prior decision. Like a steady walk on a beam. You don’t happen to be on a bean and walk elegantly. You are purposeful…
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Take my word for it
Let your yes be yes, and your no be no. My mom was a strong believer in clear honest talk. No matter the context. She disliked sarcasm as it hid frustration and double talk. And I do believe I owe it to my parents that the way I learned to interact with others had no…
