Cathartic journaling of an adoptive mom.
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Selective friendships
If being loved and included by all is your goal, you will fail. Rejection is one of the most painful feelings one can experience, no matter how mature or old. The sooner you figure out it is still part of being alive, the better.Some protect themselves from rejection by isolating themselves. That doesn’t mean they…
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Children & apologies
You’ve got to let them come to you. This year with Jackie has been like that. Give her space. Be available. She’ll come to you. I love the teenage years, challenging as they may be. She is maturing under my own eyes and we are building a strong relationship. She is curious and challenges the…
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ivy is 8
She is the baby in the house. We try to elevate her, give her responsibilities which she fulfills with timely commitment and joy. But then she retreats in her baby stage, soft voice, cute demeanor. Not my favorite but I love her nonetheless. When we visit friends, babies are drawn to her like bees to…
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Embracing peace
Growing pains – letting kids try imperfectly. Whoever finishes last Conrad set an impromptu rule that he/she does the dishes. Jackie did them yesterday. And she did them well, to my delight. Tonight Ivy did the dishes, and even cleaned the food cacher. I decided not to get mad anymore. I used to think that…
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Anger as a gift
I did not get angry before becoming a mom. I felt angry but I didn’t give in to this feeling. It wasn’t necessary. There was no place or use for it. I was never wronged in such a way to cause me to call out my anger and use it as a shield. On the…
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Prayer for wisdom
As a little girl and a teen I always prayed for wisdom. There were so many things I felt I didn’t know. I tried to not tempt God. I asked for things that He promised He could give me. “Ask for wisdom and you shall receive it in abundance.” But wisdom is like a river.…
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Adoptive families together
We get easily influenced by negative things and thoughts. But consistency in pursuing what is good brings encouragement and hope. We don’t change the world through some meeting, but that sense of belonging, the joy of adoption, the encouragement through stories, funny & clever, are a gift. We end the year managing to get together…
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Intentional noticing
Today’s lesson was about housework and good observing work. How come a mom’s mental load is so heavy? Because she is so good at observing what needs to be done. I heard a mom’s story about using this phrase and the effects of it. And when traveling, when her kids used the public bathroom which…
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Perseverance
As I write about everything that moves me, I wish I took better writing classes. I wrote lame poetry as an early teen, and my literary interpretations in school were better than average, and yet, I feel that there is an untapped wisdom and creativity in writing. And though I practice, i don’t know how…
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Permission
“Who told you, you can do this?” I ask my 7 year old, taken aback by her actions. “I told myself” she answered with an obvious “duh!” confident voice. I also think through every situation fast. I do. But I find myself in her predicament often. I do decide for myself even when it’s borderline.…
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Clay at MomCo
I have a trailblazer friend. She is extremely talented and, since I’ve known her, she has tried her hand at many arts. And yet, finding your passion is not about being talented but about being brave, open and perseverent. And there are seasons we go through. She says she loves beautiful things and I believe she…
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Studiu de caz. Paralelă.
Am citit în doua zile cartea “The tipping point”. Punctul de cotitură, într-un fel. In 1960 pe o insula din Sudul Pacificului, in Micronezia, un băiat de 17 ani s-a sinucis pentru ca tatăl lui l-a gonit de acasă când acesta nu a reușit sa facă ceva. In mesajul lui de rămas bun i-a mulțumit…
