Cathartic journaling of an adoptive mom.
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A milestone passed
The first visit went great. It was a two hour visit of basically friends catching up, as our social worker has been with us from day one of starting this journey. Even Jaclyn said she liked her a lot. She wrote down a lot of things, and we talked about how much Jaclyn has blossomed.…
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Entrusting her to God
The days are long and full. And we live life to the fullest, differently than we used to. Jaclyn learns, says and does new things every day, and I can’t keep up with recording them. Many of them I store them up in my heart.
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“Parents in arms”
As a kid I was so embarrassed when I was corrected by other adults, other than my parents. I sensed their disapproval, their judgement and displeasure …and I was disappointed with my parents for not telling me first, how or what to do, or not to do.
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Up ahead
My blood boils at the thought that my daughter could be bullied, not by kids but adults responsible for her, like kindergarten aids or teachers. I hear of all these stories…
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Idealization or reality
What if we idealized parenting? What if we wished for it so much and we overestimated our abilities and stamina? Were there ever any new parents disappointed or utterly exhausted by the new role? …And thought to themselves: “what have we done?”
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Morning One
There was a tradition in my family growing up, that when we were visiting Grammy and Grampa, we would wake up early and sneak into their room to crawl into bed with them. Then we would spend a lazy morning giggling and chatting in bed. Since last night was the first official night that Jaclyn…
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First official night home
We spent an hour reading and singing songs from Osana Osana. I sang one of her favorite song more than 10 times, mixed in with others. It’s her first official night here, and it’s smooth sailing. The bedtime routine is stretched and lavish …Meh, it’s not harming. It’s just spoiling her with attention, love and…
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The Date
She comes home today! We got the call yesterday from her social worker that the court had finished the paperwork to have her move in with us permanently in view of the final adoption in three months (what a call to get on Thanksgiving!). One last drive to the foster family to pick her up…
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Being social
Jaclyn is more proper than I was at her age. She is more social, and was taught o greet people, and introduce herself and be perfectly pleasant. As she became our daughter, when feeling under the weather (mostly because she met people just as we got out of the car, and she does get car…
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Independence
During our classes last summer, the social worker made an off-handed comment about how occasionally kids go in developmental reverse as they are adopted. New parents, instead of challenging the kid to continue to grow and be independent, will want to cuddle and “help” them with everything, even though they had already started doing things…
