Cathartic journaling of an adoptive mom.
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The Date
She comes home today! We got the call yesterday from her social worker that the court had finished the paperwork to have her move in with us permanently in view of the final adoption in three months (what a call to get on Thanksgiving!). One last drive to the foster family to pick her up…
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Being social
Jaclyn is more proper than I was at her age. She is more social, and was taught o greet people, and introduce herself and be perfectly pleasant. As she became our daughter, when feeling under the weather (mostly because she met people just as we got out of the car, and she does get car…
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Independence
During our classes last summer, the social worker made an off-handed comment about how occasionally kids go in developmental reverse as they are adopted. New parents, instead of challenging the kid to continue to grow and be independent, will want to cuddle and “help” them with everything, even though they had already started doing things…
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VIA
Find something personally enjoyable in everything. I learned this in marriage. Do not disregard yourself completely, as you deprive the other of your true self, while starting to resent your own sacrifice.
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Living life
Find something personally enjoyable in everything. I learned this in marriage. Do not disregard yourself completely, as you deprive the other of your true self, while starting to resent your own sacrifice.
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Extra mile
They told us that the adjustment to our new life together is harder on the parents than on the child. Makes total sense. And I don’t deny it. Yet we are in the midst of an actual adjustment, of finding our place in the new formed family. I am stretching my mental and emotional endurance…
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Storytelling
We love stories. We enjoy watching movies. We enjoy reading books. They are redemptive and enthralling, for young and old. Here are some more quotes from the “20-things…” book that reminded us to be intentional about our storytelling, to create a context and be aware of how Jaclyn begins to process it all.
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Let’s Go Outside
We spent every day this weekend with Jaclyn and though we’re exhausted, it was a wonderful time of making memories and setting rhythms. She is such a bright child and full of energy. One of the things I think we’re most thankful for is her attitude toward playing; she’s not necessarily attached to any one…
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Day-in and day-out
When is it the right time to start teaching something, explaining or correcting something? If you thought about it, the best time to begin is now (using age appropriate guidance).
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About comparison
Let’s face it. We skipped ahead. We became parents of a well behaved 3 year old, who can communicate, is potty trained, and sleeps through the night. Yet, I have been meaning to state this for a while: do not covet someone else’s life!
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16h long days
Probably it won’t be the last old uninviting building I have to wander through, ping pong style. But one can hope… These days are split like this: 5 hours driving, 4 hours at the hospital, 2 hours nap, 5 hours reading, playing, eating, walking Rufus.
