Violeta Altmann

Category: Parenting

  • Despre depresie

    Despre depresie

    —

    by

    Violeta
    in , , , , ,

    Un subiect de altfel tabu. Tristețe, descurajare și neajutorare. Iritabilitate sau panică. Perspectiva mea de iarnă, în tandem cu tratarea subiectului azi la întalnirea mamelor de preșcolari.  Cu toții simțim și emoții așa numite negative. De altfel, un om sănătos are un spectru larg de sentimente. Diferența o face acceptarea și gestionarea lor. Cu atât…

  • She takes after you

    She takes after you

    —

    by

    Violeta
    in , ,

    We savor the journey of discovering Jackie as the unique person she is. Often she has certain tendencies, different from us, true sparks of genius, and we joke about who she takes after. Isn’t adoption adventurous?! We see us in her, at different times, and we marvel. She only emulates our habits, our facial expressions,…

  • Fascinating past

    Fascinating past

    —

    by

    Violeta
    in , ,

    I wonder what life was like back then. What were my parents daily concerns. How they perceived us, each other, the world. When my mom tells me stories, I am always fascinated, yet I know the stories are now filtered through a lifetime of events, lived with presence. Jackie loves to hear stories about me…

  • What qualifies me to write about adoption?

    What qualifies me to write about adoption?

    —

    by

    Violeta
    in , ,

    Absolutely nothing …except for my God given gift for words, the delight of expressing myself in writing, and the love I have for my daughter.

  • About Sadness

    About Sadness

    —

    by

    Violeta
    in

    “I feel sad”, says my 5 year old. “Why”, I ask. “I don’t know”, she answers.

  • My first book

    My first book

    —

    by

    Violeta
    in , , ,

    I wrote this. For Jackie. For us. Inspired by the monthly meetings at a post adoption support group. We heard so many golden truths, but applying them feels less natural. I was nervous and excited to read it Jackie. She loved it! At some pages she would just listen quietly. At others she would giggle…

  • Familiarity with kids

    Familiarity with kids

    —

    by

    Violeta
    in

    Little kids made me uncomfortable as an adolescent and young adult. I felt no desire to hold them or to interact with them. For the most part I didn’t understand them, and as far as I could remember I was just not around babies at all. Though as a little girl, I played mommy for…

  • The grief box

    The grief box

    —

    by

    Violeta
    in ,

    I haven’t found my words yet. The irony doesn’t escape me that I have to have such conversations face to face. Yesterday I cried. As the sense of irritation turned into deep sadness. Then I went to one of my last post adoption support group meetings.

  • Începuturi

    Începuturi

    —

    by

    Violeta
    in , , , ,

    Cand am venit prima data la întâlnirea cu mame de preșcolari in Iris, eram tare aeriana. Cred ca aveam urechile înfundate un pic, si imi simteam capul mare.

  • That first year

    That first year

    —

    by

    Violeta
    in ,

    I had mentioned before that I lost a lot of weight in those first months of parenting. Looking back I realize how hard it was. But we didn’t know it then. It was also wonderful. And the wonder and joy was all that we could see.

  • Fierul ascute fierul

    Fierul ascute fierul

    —

    by

    Violeta
    in , ,

    Eram la o minunata reuniune lunară cu parinti adoptivi, si s-a pus o întrebare: cu ce ne trezim ca ne luptam, din tiparele pe care nici nu știam ca le avem, ca parinti.

  • Willing to change your mind

    Willing to change your mind

    —

    by

    Violeta
    in , ,

    True courage, maturity and leadership is to sit face to face with someone you disagree with, and truly listen, and be willing to change your mind. Not just give in (to avoid tension), or compromise your belief, but be willing to change your mind.