Violeta Altmann

Category: Parenting

  • Junior high drama

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    The first clarinet class after the Bach competition, the teacher didn’t show up. I guess he was taking a well deserved Monday off, but forgot to tell us. later edit: Jackie got 1st place 🥇 Jackie called me from music school and I went to pick her up early. She practiced a bit in her…

  • Surrounded by takers

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    When you set yourself up to be a giver.You strive to be a blessing to others, a desirable company,needed and appreciated,And you don’t set some boundariesNot before it’s too late,Not to prove a pointBut to remain engaged and present and fair Lately I don’t feel valuedAs everyone who calls seems to want somethingNeed something. And…

  • The fog has lifted

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    My own emotionsOut of my control.The emotions are not to be fabricatedBut observed,Processed and embraced.I want to feel brave and kind and generousI want to serve with endless energy But I am a limited human.And that is ok. After a few weeks of unhealthy airThere was a fog of pollutionAnd heavy still airFinally the wind…

  • Pulling a tooth that wasn’t ready

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    Ivy has a million ideas, daring, dangerous.She tries things even when I tell her not toI explain why notI pleadI set boundariesTo no avail. She sometimes listensMost often she doesn’t Today I couldn’t see where she was when picking her upNadia told me she lost a toothand went to the bathroomThere was blood. She came…

  • Change of routine

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    I’ve been too exhausted to plan a rest period. I didn’t know whom to turn to for respite. Home life demands my active involvement in every area. Occasionally I take a step back, but I hold my breath knowing it is only temporary.  I keep going. Like a soldier. Tired to the bone but not…

  • My resting hour

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    A month of finding my balance. A dry grey month. Cold. Sad. Depressing.  I’m so glad February is over. We are a team but so often, every other day, in my quest to serve and provide, I look at my family and wonder if any of it is worth it.  I race to serve to…

  • Attachment

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    I have successfully fulfilled this essential needs for our kids.For 8 years respectively 5 years.Availability, guidance and connection. I was easily accessibleI could read between the linesAlways mediating, always there. Serving, feeding,Nourishing the mind and the body. As of late I felt more and more used.A punching bagA dumpsite for unpleasant emotions I feel the…

  • ski vacation

    ski vacation

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    Blinding lightGrey majestic peaksShivering snow. Powdery and perfect.Smiles through big blue tinted ski gogglesI can feel the adrenalineThe silence and camaraderieThe tiredness at the end of the dayThe sheer splendor of the mountains. My heart achesas I see these gorgeous viewonly in pictures. Is it jealousy?Is it self pity? I can only recognize the winter…

  • mici răutăți

    mici răutăți

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    Cum îi protejăm pe copiii noștri de micile și mările răutăți în contexte unde nu suntem prezenți? La școală, pe stradă, în parc.  Atașamentul de un adult iubitor căptușește inima și mintea de tachinări. Nu ca nu le mai simt copii dar nu îi afectează la fel de mult sau pe termen lung. E un…

  • zădărnicie

    zădărnicie

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    Un alt concept preluat din cartea: ține-ți copiii aproape.  Când te confrunți cu o limită, cu o blocadă, cu o descurajare. Când trebuie să te oprești, să deschizi mâinile și mintea, și să încerci o altă abordare. Frustrarea, mania, definiția nebuniei care încearcă iar și iar aceeași cale fără rezultate. Toate se realizează, de dezumfla.…

  • probleme de mate la clasa I

    probleme de mate la clasa I

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    “Am teme. M-ajuți?” Asa ma întâmpină Ivy zilnic. Joi a stat acasă ca a fost învățătoarea bolnavă. Toată dimineața a făcut teme și fișe. La fiecare rând, exercițiu, propoziție, îmi arăta și întreabă: “e bine?”  Sunt în preajma. Și ușor accesibilă. Prea ușor accesibilă. O mică întrebare. În continuu. Din partea tuturor. Apoi mai e…

  • another group project

    another group project

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    I arrive 20 minutes early in front of the school, and I meet with Iulia, and then Andreea arrives. I like them. We chat. It’s fun and friendly and cool. I pick up the four jars of honey I bought from Iulia and then the class is dismissed. They all rush out. Jackie walks over…