Category: Parenting
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Motivation
We can do hard things propelled by motivation. Sometimes we assume our motivation is shared by all. But that is definitely not true. Take for example a job. Some prefer a high paying job that comes with a lot of stress. Others prefer flexibility at a lower pay. Some want routine, security, steady income and…
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Off the mountain, back from the coast
Returning to day to day life, to reality – it is hard no matter the age. Kids don’t have the practice of it, though their reality is social and still fun. Not too much pressure – except school and grades and peers. Ivy did not wake up happy. On the contrary. Down turned lip, quivering.…
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Adevărul
In ultimile săptămâni am fost întâmpinată cu câteva minciuni gratis de la J. Minciuni spuse parca pentru practică. Poate astea ma deranjează ce mai tare. Citesc printre rânduri, prin pupilele dilatate, si îmi pare rău sa vad cum se știrbește încet încet încrederea mea in hotărârea fetelor mele de a spune adevarul. O întreb pe…
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Ai încredere în mine?
Zilele astea iar au ieșit scântei din neînțelegeri. Decizii luate în pripă, decizii contra sfaturilor mele, testarea de libertăți și oportunități. După o seară în care ar fi putut demonstra ca sunt responsabile, să închidă televizorul la 9 și să meargă să se spele pe dinți, fetele au mai început un film și au mâncat…
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Misguided self-sacrificial parenting
When we teach our kids that they can do hard things, we gift them the best inheritance that will build their future. When the stakes are low enough, discomfort is manageable, the loss is insignificant compared to the gain of experience. I listen to the challenges of ivy’s classmates’ parents. The circumstances pull us into…
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Forgetfulness
Out of fearful brain, I easily forget to do this or that. I interrupt my own train of thought to do something that crosses my mind. I got to accomplish lots this way. I was so efficient. But my short term memory, treaded with fear, it started to fail me. Seriously fail me. I would…
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Beginning of 2025 school year
When it rains it pours. I dive head first into the crashing waves and I take it all in, embracing the challenge. With the new schedule one kid in the morning the other one in the afternoon at school, I had to adapt to their medical appointments and do them in different days even if…
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Impact
“Do not consider yourself wise. Fear the lord and stay away from evil paths.” That was week 2 for my week in the Proverbs with Brian & Michelle. I admire the humility with which this wide group of accomplished people present themselves. They are quick to acknowledge their shortcomings and where they feel they came…
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Mind buzz
So many trains of thought rushing through my mind. A constant buzz. Overlapping. Competing. I know the joy of peace through meditation – not easily attained. As a kind when praying my mind would easily wanter and I would struggle to bring it back into the one activity of prayer. Little did I know that…
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Conectare
Ca un elastic puternic care se poate întindeCând ne certam, când avem opinii puternice diferiteSa avem încredere ca nu se rupe elasticulSa avem curaj sa ținem strâns de elSa nu dam drumul înainte sa ne onoram punctul de vedereAcolo cred eu ca găsim odihna in relațiiCând avem încredere in noi si in celălaltSi vorbim onestChiar…
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Invisible
Taking pictures has been a passion of mine since I was a teenager, when you had to develop negatives and print them on paper. So photography came with a cost. I wasn’t particularly good at it, but I captured moments and emotions. I have family photos from 50 years ago that my uncle took. My…
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La jumătatea claselor primare
Am petrecut cu prima fiica primii ani de școală in pandemie. Nu mai fusesem in acel sezon ca părinți si ne-am adaptat fără așteptări. Nici n-am știut cât de bine ne era de fapt. Învățătoarea s-a adaptat si ea, si a dat tonul bine, mai ales ca apucasem clasa pregătitoare in scoli. Am ascultat multe…