Category: Adoption
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Words have power
I remembered, I felt how powerful a positive word spoken clearly in my mind can be.When have I stopped doing that? Why? I have lived in a fog. Dense. Sticky with sadness, tiredness. Then after clearing the film of silence off the topI could breath againAnd hearI listened to barely whispered questionsAnd received an answer.Not…
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Surrounded by takers
When you set yourself up to be a giver.You strive to be a blessing to others, a desirable company,needed and appreciated,And you don’t set some boundariesNot before it’s too late,Not to prove a pointBut to remain engaged and present and fair Lately I don’t feel valuedAs everyone who calls seems to want somethingNeed something. And…
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The outcasts during communism
The communism sterilized this society of anything different than “the norm” imposed by them. Intellectuals and believers were imprisoned because they thought outside the box. Ceasusescu tried to create the new man, and increase the strength of the country by increasing its numbers. The law he passed in 1966 making abortion illegal was a purely…
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Daughters
Today’s poems (in Brian’s Bible study of the book of Mark) inspired me. I never questioned my identity as a daughter. My father couldn’t hide his pride in us, to the nourishment of our soul (and the slight frustration of my humble mom).I felt loved and seen and delighted in. As I adopted two daughters,…
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Adoptive families together
We get easily influenced by negative things and thoughts. But consistency in pursuing what is good brings encouragement and hope. We don’t change the world through some meeting, but that sense of belonging, the joy of adoption, the encouragement through stories, funny & clever, are a gift. We end the year managing to get together…
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Perseverance
As I write about everything that moves me, I wish I took better writing classes. I wrote lame poetry as an early teen, and my literary interpretations in school were better than average, and yet, I feel that there is an untapped wisdom and creativity in writing. And though I practice, i don’t know how…
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Therapeutic retrospection
The girls wanted to watch old videos of themselves. I indulged a trip to the past that lasted an hour. We nearly peed our pants laughing. We watched videos from their first days with us and the few years later. Them playing, us together and mostly regular life at the apartment. Those first years seemed…
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Devenind mamă
Am publicat recent o carte pe subiectul adopției. Am pornit de la premiza ca dacă eu simt așa, trebuie să fie și alți părinți care trec prin stări similare. În unele capitole mă adresez direct părinților. În altele fac haz de necaz. Și în multe dintre ele pun reflectorul asupra credinței și cum aceasta dă…
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Responding wisely
We can’t control what people do. We can only control how we respond. It’s not what you think. In my quest to cut things off my endless list, my projects list, my to list, as I succeed pulling away from some things, many flood to take their place. Monday was busy. Busy at the pool.…
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Our evening talks
“Mom, when I get in bed, my mind starts to worry about all kinds of things. And I can’t stop my mind. I fear you will die. Who will take care of me? I worry I won’t be able to read. I can’t get away from these thoughts. Can you teach me how to pray?” In the…
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Ai noștri pentru o vreme
Trăiesc cu gândul că la un moment dat îmi voi lua rămas bun de la copiii mei. Îmi pregătesc inima să îi văd luându-ți zborul din cuib, cu emoții de bucurie și dor. Eu însămi am plecat devreme de acasă. Când am semnat actele finale de adopție, mi-a trecut prin minte faptul ca în sfârșit…
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Etnia
La început de Martie, la ora de educație civică, Doamna Învățătoare a invitat-o pe fiica mea mai mare să își spună povestea. Doar dacă vrea. Adopția nu e un secret acasă, în cartier, în biserică sau la școală. Modul natural în care tratam această parte din povestea noastră a fost transmis ca atare mai departe.…