Month: September 2020
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Lessons
Some things need to be learned the hard way… even if it’s not really that hard. We told Ivy to put covered shoes on, just in case she want to ride her bike. She politely declined. Nope. She was certain she won’t ride her bike. “At all!” Even Jackie tried to persuade her, as she…
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“That’s not true!”
Miss candor here, Jaclyn “Speak-her-mind” Altmann, contradicted me when I told the bride at her wedding that she was happy to attend her bridal shower. She said outright: “it was so boring, I didn’t enjoy it.” Well, it was a zoom party for a bride to be. Neither girl had ever attended a themed party,…
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Responsibility
Parents need to learn to bluff. And take risks. And often, take a seat back and give time and space. Yesterday Jackie peeled 1kg of potatoes. She was so excited to do it. Two days ago I showed both girls how to peel potatoes and carrots and we made soup together. They subconsciously seek every…
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Perpetually
Whoa. Parenting is on my mind. A lot. This is the season in which I find myself. My predominant love language is acts of service. What a blessing that is, to combine my natural tendencies with my husband’s quality time and physical touch, expression of love. And gifts. We don’t speak exclusively one language. We…
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Unconditional love
It’s an Intertwined confidence that I feel. I’m otherwise comfortably humble, self conscious, and I enjoy a sense of invisibility. So I find my strong belief in my own lovability strange. Where did it come from? How was it built so sturdy and long term? What is the correlation between confidence and humility? More specifically…
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Trust and Truth
Yesterday we discussed about disciplining. At length. Jackie loves these philosophical conversations, situational, theoretical and practical. we reminisced about a time when Jackie said we are the most strict parents. And no other parent scolds their children as much as we do. Understandable sheltered perspective. I never saw other parents angry at their kids growing…
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Testing our resolve
Down the rabbit hole I go… She said, as a matter of fact, that in two days she goes back to her foster mom. Why? I ask intruigued.Because I want to. She responds nonchalantly. Context is everything. And if I recall correctly, last time she said she wants to go back, we’ve had quite a…