Author: Violeta

One of the recent nights Jackie called out the 5th time saying softly, “am de ajutor” [i need help]. Usually the needs are as follows: i’m thirsty, cover me, i need to pee, sing me one more song, stay with me, rub my back, tell me who everyone loves me, bring me a toy and…

The adoption psychologist assessed me as a perfectionist. I was offended by it. I took a closer look at why she might think that.

Life has entered a smooth season, of solid anticipation of waves, twists and turns. There is little to say about life, other than the fact that we are entering soon the summer vacation, and we wonder how that will be. Will the days seem long? will they fly by?

We reap the benefits of every word of advice or correction shared with Jackie. We hear her incorporate what we tell her in her play, or shares it with others. The other day I was putting on daddy’s fluffy housecoat, and daddy says with a goofy tone “hey, that’s my housecoat!” To which Jackie responds…

I am most grateful for kindergarten because Jaclyn got to play with kids her age, unsupervised by me. It gave me confidence in her and in myself. At times I felt responsible to oversee her actions, against my better judgement. I am inclined to trust her, and let her make mistakes and learn from them,…

I don’t know if kids come and play with all the other parents, but when Conrad and I arrive at kindergarten to pick Jackie up, a handful of kids drop everything to come and play with us. Conrad makes silly faces at them, tickles them, chases them around. Ah, the squeals and laughter! There is…

This is the 8th month of knowing Jackie. We’ve had great days and very hard days, and making it through has strengthened our relationship, confidence and faith.

The mailman knocked at our door today at noon. Unexpected visit. He was very nervous. He said he was called into the director’s office this morning regarding my complaint – a short email I sent last evening. He was embarrassed.

We got Jackie’s passport back, with an invitation to go to the interview at the US Embassy on her behalf. Bucuresti is 600 km away. That will be Jackie’s first plane ride, at the end of June.

Yesterday I sent in Jackie’s passport to the embassy via the free tnt delivery service, to get a visa for her, to visit the states, hopefully at Christmas.