Author: Violeta
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Attachment
Not long ago, in the job description of the state employees who cared for orphans said to not get attached, and to not let the children get attached to them either. If the state employee disobeyed the written law and did what their heart moved them to do, that’s when they truly served the the…
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Adoption statistics
The extremely low percentage of adoptable kids among the institutionalized (1.5%) suggests a worrisome practice to maintain the kids in the system with the non-adoptable status. In 2016 the adoption law was amended. On paper much of it has improved, but the implementation of the changes is terribly slow. This is a huge machine familiar…
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Friday swimming
For a few years I haven’t felt the importance of Friday. But since Jackie, since we got (re)acquainted with kindergarten, I feel again the joy and the burden of the end of the week. Parents know why. Today I took Jackie out earlier from kindergarten and we went swimming. Instead of her taking a nap…
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Vineri la înot
De câțiva ani n-am mai simțit importanța zilei de vineri. Dar de-o vreme, de când există grădiniță, simt din nou bucuria și povara sfarșitului de săptămână. Părinții știu de ce. Azi am luat-o pe Jaclyn mai devreme de la gradiniță, și am mers la înot. În loc să doarmă, noi am înotat împreună, ca două…
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Penultima vizită post-adopție
Trăim cu impresia că fetița noastră de cinci ani știe. Chiar deunăzi am vorbit despre asta. Despre faptul că nu a crescut în pântecele meu. Își amintește chiar numele mic (foarte comun) al mamei biologice. I l-am spus acum doi ani, când ne-a luat prin suprindere cu întrebarea, în timp ce conduceam. În plus, m-a…
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Cuvinte și siguranță
E sâmbătă și târziu. Conrad se apucă să spele vasele după cină. Jackie tot printre picioarele noastre, ca și Rufus de altfel. Bucătăria deodata pare neîncăpătoare. Conrad o roagă pe Jackie să meargă în cameră. Ea zice Nu. “Stau aici.” Pe un ton răstit Conrad îi strigă numele. Rar reverberează așa baritonul lui. De altfel,…
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The valley of waiting
I’m walking through the valley. My vantage point is disadvantageous but I walk in faith. And I ponder. Is faith passive? Is it something I say to chalk-off my inability to cope with the unknown? Is it something I do when I have no plan and I feel stuck? Our liminal space. It’s bare. A…
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Our moral code
Twisting the reality feels powerful. In parallel it is also a creative process. What I want to share is about the natural consequences of (not) telling the truth. I’d venture to say that we’ve all tried it. Most of us lied at some point. Generally speaking, kids do it to get out of trouble. Adults…
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Book launch party
When we share our heart, our art… and we are blessed in return a thousand fold. A cosy gathering where stories are brought to light and life happens. The most precious gift one could receive nowadays is time with undivided attention. After an evening of friendship, talking about adoption, sharing snacks and stories, receiving unexpected…
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Deeply rooted
The book launching party is happening in a few days. Looking forward to sharing the joy of adoption, what it means to us, how we got here… And answer questions. I am experiencing a whirlwind of activities and emotions. But of all things I’ve been involved with, writing this book and talking about it has…
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What if?
It’s hard to believe that a year ago already, we were pondering, and deciding in earnest, to go for the second adoption. Then we found out about Jackie’s sister. Here is how our faith is being tested though. We don’t know the timeline, we have no power over moving things faster. I visited the adoption…
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Who is this book for?
This newly published book has been very well received, with enthusiasm and anticipation. At first look, as well as after poring over it, readers say it is beautiful. It’s educational, as well as emotional and eye opening. I personally still take it as a reminder and encouragement for better parenting, as well as a therapeutic…