Author: Violeta
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Listen.
Our hearts are hopeful, our minds hungry. We want to serve more, and free ourselves of our own selfishness. To listen, to see the other, to understand better and to love. To be courageous, clear minded, to discern the truth, to love the Truth. I wrote this in one breath as we stepped into 2019.…
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The imitation game
“I’m wiping down this window” shouts Jackie from the bedroom, as we got home on New Year’s Eve. “It sweated again and a little water dripped on the hardwood floor.” It occurred to me that I don’t remember my parents guiding me with too many words. But I remember watching them. What if they said…
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Mami, what do you do?
The curiosity to understand our parents’ day jobs has begun, earlier for Jackie than it happened to me. In first or second grade I had to tell my teacher what my parents did for a living, except my parents didn’t have standard jobs (policeman, teacher, doctor etc). My mom was a chemist working in a…
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Fascinating past
I wonder what life was like back then. What were my parents daily concerns. How they perceived us, each other, the world. When my mom tells me stories, I am always fascinated, yet I know the stories are now filtered through a lifetime of events, lived with presence. Jackie loves to hear stories about me…
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Loneliness
I don’t presume to grasp fully this feeling, but I’ve had my encounters with it. It is what brought me to my knees, as a figure of speech as well as literally, over two decades ago. This year I’ve read a handful of books, mainly on parenting to help me to better tackle this role, but…
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Pentru mama și tata
Fără pretenții, cu capul pe umeri și cu piciorele pe pamant, așa ne-ați inspirat să devenim adulți întregi. Nu v-ați cerut drepturile unul de la altul, nu v-ați declarat așteptările, ci v-ați slujit reciproc, și ne-ați grijit pe noi cu tot ce ați avut mai bun, și mai ales cu o inimă sinceră în vorbire…
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Perspective
Is perspective different from culture to culture? Definitely I would say. Adoption is not talked about much in Romania because it’s rarer and somewhat tabu. While in California it was all too common, and thus lost in familiarity. We want to admit it or not, in many countries there is a stigma associated with adoption.…
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The love that lingers
“A lot of people love me! Carmen loves me! Do you remember? In Lacu Roșu, she would greet me with: Good morning, sunshine!” says Jackie, on the way to kindergarten this morning, out of the blue. Ah, the knowledge, the belief and confidence that you are loved without a trace of doubt. May this sense…
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Are you French?
When I met Conrad I knew our kids will be different. The gift and burden of international parents, bilingual and preprogramed with wanderlust
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What qualifies me to write about adoption?
Absolutely nothing …except for my God given gift for words, the delight of expressing myself in writing, and the love I have for my daughter.
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Family in celebration mode
It could have fooled anyone. A celebratory sight. Dressed for holiday: our table, our attire, our smiles.
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How well do you understand adoption?
I know now that I didn’t know anything really, back when I decided to dive into the deep end of adoption. But I knew then how little I understood, and I was afraid. I asked myself: do I really want to start this journey and do I have what it takes to survive it?