Kids and insatiable desire to play

The most challenging part by far as a parent is the constant interruption. Working from home doesn’t help either. There are so many things that we’ve adjusted and adapted, and there are so many more up ahead to work on as we go.

Grampa has this routine. When he gets home from work he is met at the door by Grammie, with a hug and a kiss. Then he goes upstairs to unwed for 15 minutes. Transitioning from the work mindset to family life takes a little time. The other day I heard Jackie looking for Grampa, shouting going up the starirs: “Grampaaaaa! Where are you?!” I left everything I was doing and went to share with her the “afterwork deal”. Nobody bothers Grampa for 15 minutes after he gets home from work. That is His time to unwind. And we don’t yell on the stairs. No matter how cute it might seem. She had big eyes, a little embarrassed for doing something wrong. I told her it’s ok, as she didn’t know how things go down, but going forward she needs to adapt.

When Daddy is on a conference call she can’t yell: “Daddy look at this!” Because daddy is working. A new one we need to introduce is “quieter mornings”.

There are a few things I remember I learned as a kid. My parents worked nightshifts at the power-plant, so we never woke Mama or Tata up, unless there was fire. And there was never fire. We learned to use our inside voices an be mindful of our surroundings.

I read this comparison about the way the Japanese bring up their kids, compared to the average American. From a very early age their are taught strict boundaries and respect, and as they grow older they get more and more freedom and trust as they prove themselves to be trustworthy. On the flip side the average American culture says to let kids be kids and play. They’ll have plenty time to learn about rules and boundaries. And this is pushed to late teenage life when it is significantly harder to bring up responsibility and boundaries if you haven’t introduced them appropriately at a young age.

We play a lot. We relearned to play. And it is a good thing. On the other hand I often wonder if we are too demanding, we treat her most maturely, because she is so wise at times yet so silly at others.