Today jackie went to the petting zoo with the other kids from the camp.
I was eager to go to the grownups class but Jackie asked me to stay with her for five minutes, until the buss arrived bed, which turned into 15 minutes so she stayed in my arms.
I was a bit worried that she would not want to go anymore, as a departure time was dragged out. But I stayed. She hugged and kissed and talked and when it was time to go she let go of me and went.
I realized that if I had rushed the time she had asked for, out of my own impatience I would have missed out on a sweet time and caused anxiety possibly.
Though jackie goes out to socialize with all the young girls and boys, and we encourage her to do so, she comes to us to snuggle and get reaffirmed. She says “I’m your darling, I’m your lady bug, I’m your princess, I’m your angel I’m your little girl.” And I repeat after her with conviction: “you are mine my sweetheart”.
On the other hand, yesterday morning though she would have slept longer, she woke up enough to converse with me.
So we are always going down first for our cup of coffee, in silence. But this particular morning I had corrected her pulling her lip.
So even though I was leaving on a good tone inviting her to come with me, she said no. After I left I heard her cry. I went back but I got upset. Why does she whine, when she herself declined all the options. What else did she want?
She wanted love and comfort; so I picked her up, sleepyhead and groggy, and we made it downstairs. She was groaning in my arms tired, frustrated probably, so as we were having our breakfast I looked her in the eye and said “Jackie I’m sorry for getting upset with you this morning; did you cry because in reality you didn’t want to go down and you wanted me to stay up with you?” She answered with a wide smile of relief: “yes”. We went over the conversation we did have, as I know she was half asleep. And that was it. Her grumpy mood instantly dissipated. She was acknowledged and understood.
Croatia is spectacular!
