A new couple in our class described how he leaned to better relate to his wife. Usually humans learn this concept in the reverse direction from humans to God, but he explained it so smooth and eloquent.
I’ll paraphrase, of course. The relationship with my wife is just like the relationship with God. There are days when I don’t feel anything, or I feel angry, or I feel disappointed (with God). But I am still His, and He is still mine. And the next day we get to do it all over again. Sometimes I feel overwhelming joy and gratitude, and fulness of Him. And other times there are no words and little emotions, but at an intellectual level, I know we are in a Covenant. And it’s ok.
I guess in infatuation we go from emotions to actions. In the familiarity of marriage we go from action to emotions. [full cycle]