We’ve had so many good conversation, my daughters and I. Honesty draws them in. We chat about everything and I’m honored by their trust and desire to share with me their dreams, worries, milestones and other events.
Jackie has liked boys since she was in kindergarten. They enjoyed her company and they were kind and funny. And I listened to her tell me stories while telling her that infatuation comes and goes, but friendship remains and flirting is not a sustainable way of interacting with others. If you comit to an exclusive relationship, sooner or later one of you will have to break it. Remaining in relationships only to not hurt feelings is not reasonable either. I’m not afraid of heartbreak. I think it’s a natural and important step into maturity but there is no rush into such type of maturity.
Boys have declared their interest in her. One asked her to be his girlfriend. She politely declined. She said she likes him but they can be friends. She told me she doesn’t see a purpose for romantic involvement. She doesn’t feel it’s time for it yet.
I was so impressed with her response. She stressed my confidence and ease. I love the courage and innocence of early teens. And her clarity of words and attitude.
While her colleagues are crazy about boys, and they all talk about relationships due to curiosity and giggle about romantic attention, Jackie is still cool and confident enough to know her mind. Oh, I pray for continued clarity and confidence and humility to keep her nimble, agile as she continues to grow. May God protect her.
And as Ivy matures quietly, observing but not making any waves, I pray I have the eyes and ears to hear her well. That she is confident to grow independently not in the shadow of her sister’s opinions and confidence. She is different, delicate, kind, patient, aware and helpful. May she have the courage to speak up her mind.