Both is us had stress dreams on st. Nicholas day. The Saturday we spent a great time apart, I had a women’s meeting at church. The girls met me at church by bus. Conrad went on a hike. And had the home to himself the rest of the day.
After lunch I went too the pool with both girls and we swam and had a wonderful time together, Clean and fresh and soaked and purified in the sauna. Then Carmen and Iris joined us. More fun conversations and laps and jumping inn the pool and time spent in the Hamman sauna, steam and warmth. Then we walked down town to see the Christmas markets and got some goodies. And chatted and leisurely walked the not so crowded market. It was lovely. And not too cold though we were all freshly showered and pores open.
In the evening we watched a funny movie (The family plan 2) and Conrad talked with his parents for over an hour on FaceTime. My parents gifted us all some sweets and we each got 100 lei gift to spend as we wish. My parents have been insanely generous with their funds. Their pensions increased more than they spend so they keep gifting us or the kids at random times with money. Which sadly we seem to be in need of more than before. Everything got expensive and our income dwindled. But we are afloat.
He dreamt that he parked his old car at the bart, near San Francisco, to go to an interview. And in his dream he didn’t even get the job. But I picked him up in the city with my car and as we passed the place where he left his he said we need to go back so he could get it. I told him he can pick it up the next day but he was concerned he didn’t pay enough for the parking and it is not a safe area to leave the car over night. Still, he didn’t stand his ground and left it there. Under the seat he had a hard rive with his friend’s entire art portfolio. As he went to pick up his car he found out it was toed and when he went to collect it found it completely destroyed, windows smashed, and the hard drive had been stolen. He also had a fine and had to pay 6000 USD for the towing.
I asked him why didn’t he insist in his dream to stop and get it. He said it was a dream. He didn’t have much control over steering the dream into a reasonable direction. But isn’t that interesting that his subconscious mind created such a scenario…
On the other hand my dream was on a trip, and there were our friends and we were renting a cabin or a large Airbnb apartment. As we were packing up to leave I went up to check the room one last time. We were traveling by train and bus and the trip ahead was complicated. Conrad had already left and I discovered that he left all his clothes drying. Good quality clothes that he liked. I already had a small backpack and a large backpack and I was now trying to figure out how to pack his clothes left behind. In my dream I was not concerned with the fact that he left early nor that he didn’t pick up his own clothes. I was just trying to figure out how to carry the extra luggage. I was looking in my purse for a decathlon large blue bag to fit everything. And I thought of the easy duffel that was home that I could have used if I had.
I found a solution and I managed.
We are stressed. By different dreams and aspirations. Conrad is a dreamer. And I am the voice of reason (aka dream squasher). I always seem to be a party pooper. Realist or negative. I don’t think I lack faith. That has not been my blindspot or shortcoming. I am strong willed and I do get my way. But that has also served me well.