Don’t stress and don’t force things
It is the least dramatic context that I could have re-learned this lesson: selling furniture. I admit, there is an element of pride in the whole mix. “How can you not like my stuff? The things we carefully chose and paid a lot of money for?” I felt rejected by the nebulous of people. I am also pretty self aware and would not want to make anyone feel uncomfortable when we ask them the question: “do you need a couch?” …awkward! I just had to get over it and understand that people don’t need 8 more chairs in their house, or another car, or more coffee tables. I didn’t understand it until I actually had 2-5 people competing for the same items. It was not about the things being undesirable, but us sharing them with the right people… at the right time.
So we did sell our furniture in two days.
Then the car story got a little hairy, but I’m glad I drew this conclusion before the car ordeal started. A lot of talk and no decisions. Someone asked me to keep the car for 4 days, until they returned from overseas. As it turns out the car was out of their price range anyway but they wanted to see it. In the meantime we got more inquiries and I had to delay and postpone with transparency the viewing of the car.
All in good time though. This outlook helps with my action oriented drive. Slowing down is a lesson I continuously learn.
It is a good season to practice trust and patience, as I know we will get impatient and frustrated with the adoption process, waiting for the right time, the right context, the right child.
May we be ready…